Wondering if this is a real problem, or just lack of concentration/laziness. I'd be grateful for any other mumsnetters' experiences.
DS1 is now in Year 4 and he is getting increasingly upset/angry/depressed. He says he can't remember what his teacher is saying in class (so he can't follow instructions to the end of a task, and he can't remember stories that are read to him) and he is calling himself stupid and telling me he is no good at anything and he wants to die.
At this point, I should say that he loves a bit of attention and is the middle child!
For many years he has had a tendency to get angry if I give him complicated instructions at home. Sometimes when he asks a question (e.g. about traffic signs, or the universe, the usual stuff) he gets frustrated and angry as I answer him even tho I try to use age-appropriate language and not to go into details that I judge are unnecessary.
I read a bedtime story either to him and his older sister, or to him and his younger brother as often as I can. He is fine with DS2's books (but then DS2 is just 5, and they are picture books!). But when I read to him with his sister although he seems to follow the story well and he understands the vocabulary etc, he doesn't seem to be able to remember the story. (For instance, he doesn't carry events over from one night to the next. He forgets what happens at the beginning of the book by the time we get to the end, etc.)
His teacher has spoken to me about his work, implying (I think) that he isn't really doing justice to himself and should be working harder. Because she is very nice she has been asking if he's happy, sleeping enough etc.
He is not dyslexic (his spelling is very good) and is writing at a level 3c, apparently, so I don't think he has any real literacy problems. As I said, it just seems that he can't handle too many bits of verbal information at any one time. (He is brilliant at following IKEA flat pack instructions and those strange picture instructions that come with Lego. He can also map-read pretty well for someone of his age.)
Is it laziness? Stroppiness? Boy-not-wanting-to-be-told-ness? Hating schoolness? Is it something other mumsnetters recognise? Should I be strict with him and get him to knuckle down, or is there a real problem here?
Please do let me know if you've any similar experiences.
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DS1 (9) not understanding verbal instructions/following read aloud stories
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Notnowcato · 17/11/2013 22:04
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