DD is a few weeks past her 6th birthday and the youngest in her yr 2 class. She's usually a very happy, easy going child but since school has started back she has wet the bed, had tantrums over getting dressed for school, complained of constant illnesses - headaches, temperatures, sore tummy etc at home and school. She's asking me to home school her or move her. Clearly she's really unhappy. I'm really worried about her. She's had similar episodes throughout her time at school and generally seems to be subdued and lacking in confidence with others at school. She's generally a very happy child, very amenable and easy going, always makes new 'friends' wherever we go even if it's just to the park. When she's joined new activities/classes she's quickly integrated and made good friends so I don't think she is lacking in social skills.
When she first started school (and in pre-school) she was physically bullied for quite a long time by 3 children in the class. That stopped in reception with the help of the school but she seems (from my perception) to have retained a status as class 'victim' which results in most of the other children rejecting her and low level nastiness. E.g.refusing to allow her to join in at playtime and refusing to allow her to join groups for class work etc plus some nastier things like wiping nose on her hair, telling her to hide school equipment, batting her head ('where the bruises don't show' - her words). The other children in the class (bar two) blank her when she goes up to them at school. She just seems to be isolated. I spent much of last year having playdates and one to one children are very happy to be with her and play very nicely but she doesn't get invited back or to parties very much.
Im seeing the teacher tomorrow but I don't know how to present all of this. The problem is that the individual events are small and so I seem petty if I give examples of being excluded but the whole picture is making her very unhappy. When I've been in the past (save for the initial physical violence) they seem to be very focused on explaining away the examples I give and I don't know how to avoid that.
Sorry its so long and thanks if anyone got this far!
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Doxxie · 12/09/2013 13:54
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