I apologise in advance that this may be a very long and rambling message but here goes. My daughter is in year one, she is struggling with all aspects of school work, the teachers say she reaches the national average for her age in reading, maths etc but in a year group of 45 (only 30 in her class, the brightest 15 are in a class with the low achievers of the year above) she is bumping along the bottom of the class. We are very active parents, we do lots of work with her at home, we are both graduates with no history of learning difficulties in the family and her 8 year old brother is very advanced for his age.
I try not to put too much pressure on the children as I think it is counter-productive, but at the first parents evening in reception we were told that there were two children out of the 45 who were not able to do the same work as the rest of the class and she was one of them, the teacher mentioned the SENCO but said she would leave it until after Easter to see if it was caused by the change of environment, nursery to reception. Unfortunately the teacher then went off sick and the supply teacher didn?t understand why she had mentioned SENCO, so I decided to step up the work a lot at home, she started doing ?maths factor? and I tentatively worked through ?toe by toe? and we did think she was improving. At the start of year one I went to speak to her new teacher to explain what had happened the year before and that is when we were told that her scores were ok for her age ?national average? and now I think I have done too much at home so I am just about keeping her ticking over but a lot of extra work is just keeping her bumping along the bottom of the class.
At the last parents evening we were told that she was still struggling but was a ?lovely girl?, ?delight to teach? etc, but what is most worrying is that, as I have already mentioned, the school places the bottom 15 with the brightest 15 of the year below and her teacher said that my daughter would probably go into that class. What worries me about this is that my daughter is socially quite mature and her best friends are all very bright so at the moment are in with the year above, one of them has said to her that while my daughter does try very hard, they all have to work much harder as they are in a higher class, she is really worried that she is going to be in the ?lower class? next year and sees it is a punishment because she can?t do the work. I?ve tried to explain to her that it?s up to me and her teacher to try different ways to make sure that she can understand the work and she is doing nothing wrong but her confidence is just rock bottom.
Over Easter I took her for a dyslexia screening and it was discovered that she had poor visual memory but no auditory problems and I?m just about to make an appointment with the school but I really don?t know what to say, I am far too emotional about her, I just feel at this moment in time her future holds so many possibilities and she could be anything in the world, it?s up to me to make sure that she has the opportunities. I don?t want to get upset or damage the relationship with the school because I do realise they have a whole year group to think about not just my child ? what shall I ask for / say?
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milly26 · 17/04/2013 22:27
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