How to deal with post parent consultation boasting

(57 Posts)
DieWilde13 Fri 22-Mar-13 17:54:46

I hate the way some parents boast about their dcs levels post parent consultations! I usually just listen, smile politely and grunt some sort of approval. I know that these parents are dying to compare their children's achievements with mine, but I refuse to engage in this stupid game.

It actually gets on my nerves so much that I am tempted to say "Level 3? That is wonderful for your child, isn't it? Little13 is actually a level 4, but I don't like to boast about it." I am too much of a wuss, though, and might have to resign myself to venting here and keeping quiet irl. Like most of the time when I can't be bothered to point out to people how much crap they are spouting.

Thanks for listening, rant over smile

seeker Sun 24-Mar-13 10:12:55

I've got a friend who always puts stuff like this on face book. But she also posted a photo of her Valentines cards, so she obviously needs the affirmation....

almostanotherday Sun 24-Mar-13 10:24:39

I always call my closest friends and ask if its a good time to do a bit of boasting re parents evening smile and then once

almostanotherday Sun 24-Mar-13 10:26:56

ffs stupid phone!

then once my closest friends have had their parents evening I get the same phone call but its not always a boast its also an "I need to let of steam" conversation depends on what the teachers had to say smile

chicaguapa Sun 24-Mar-13 10:35:47

Tbh I've always found the opposite. DD has always been streets ahead of other DC and while I have to listen to boasting about sporting or dance achievements, it's very much frowned on if someone should say something about how well their DC is doing academically. On Facebook I'm always reading about how someone's DC scored a hat trick or came first in a swimming race or has been described as a natural dancer. But heaven forbid if you say you're proud of your DC because they came top in a test. hmm

One of DS's friends is a very a high achiever and the other parents are all very sniffy and nasty about it. I always engage the parents in conversation about how well he's doing and let them celebrate how clever their DS is. I don't see it as a slight on my DS. He's good at other things and it's not a competition.

chicaguapa Sun 24-Mar-13 10:42:24

Parents do try to draw me into conversations about levels though, but I don't bite. DD & DS are both in top groups in class, so the other parents often want to know what reading level DS is on etc. I just say I don't know, which tbh I don't. One parent told me what reading level DS was on, which I was a bit hmm at and I quickly got the measure of her and stay clear of!

Like is said, it's not a competition, but it would be nice to be able to be publicly proud if your DC is strong academically.

mrz Sun 24-Mar-13 11:01:26

When they say "my DC is level 1234567890" smile sympathetically and rely "how are the school going to help him/her catch up" then walk away.

exoticfruits Sun 24-Mar-13 11:12:16

grin mrz

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