KS2 independence and responsibilities at any cost?

[MsNameChanged]

Sorry I have to keep this very a bit cryptic as any more details would out me to school...

Ds is in Y4, he is 8, turning 9 at the end of the school year.
Ever since the beginning of Year 4 school have been banging on how children are responsible for themselves, need to become independent and so on.

Ds got himself into a major, potentially very dangerous pickle (he is fine now) because he was responsible for whatever he failed to do himself.
He is a good boy and tries to do the right thing. According to his logic he followed the school rules to the letter.

School are adamant that all fault lies with my 8 year old son. I think they should have shown/taught him how to do this independent thing first, which they didn't! They have known him for years and know that, although bright, he is not the most mature of Year 4s.

Does this make sense to anybody?

[Tgger]

very cryptic! I think you may have to give a few more clues! Or perhaps others with Y4 children will have a guess?!

[Lonecatwithkitten]

I think more details of what happened are needed to judge. Yes I do think they should be responsible for their behaviour, possessions and doing their homework.

[MsNameChanged]

Sorry for being too cryptic, not ready for full disclosure quite yet. Heading there, though.

I wish it was as easy as losing possessions...

[lljkk]

Sorry I can't say without more details, but I would look closely at who is responsible for the danger he was in. It sounds like the school, if they expected too much of him. You might have to take it to governors & LEA to win your point, though.

[Tgger]

Am racking my brain to think of an independent thing that a school should have taught an 8 year old. Failing! Something school specific, rather than a normal expectation developmentally of an 8 year old. I think you will have to give some clue if you want comments.

[mrz]

Haven't they left it a bit late if this only started in Y4? Shouldn't children have had these expectations since reception?

[wheresthebeach]

My DD is in Y4 - can't begin to imagine what they expected him to do that was dangerous...

[ihearttc]

Is it to do with taking some kind of medication that he didn't do?

[MsNameChanged]

I have an appointment with the head teacher on Monday. If they keep on being difficult I will be giving out all the details I can think of...

[lljkk]

Good luck!!

[MsNameChanged]

Head teacher has taken me completely by surprise, apologised, told me how things are going to change and admitted my pfb son is not the school's naughtiest boy.

So no need to spill the beans here, but thanks for reading!