What time do your 10 year old DC go to bed and to sleep at ?

[sweetkitty]

DD1 was 10 in July.

Bedtime on a school night is 8.30am and she's allowed to read/play quietly until 9am when it's lights out.

Most nights she is still awake at 10.30pm she says she cannot sleep.

She's terrible at getting up in the morning but is usually up at 7.30am on school days, 8am on a Sunday.

Tonight she went to bed at 9pm as she had athletics so that's a full day of school then nearly 2 hours of full on athletics and she's still awake at 10.30pm.

I don't think that she's getting enough sleep but what else can I do? She's lying in the dark for at least an hour and a half every night?

[atticusclaw]

Ds1 is 9.5 and goes to bed at 7.30, reads until 8.15ish then hopefully asleep by 8.30 but not always. But then they're up at 6.30 since they leave the house for school at 7.30.

[hillyhilly]

My dd is 9.5 too, she and her almost 7 yr old brother need around 10 hours a night

[Boysandme]

My DS aged 10.5 goes to bed at 9 on a school night, lights out for 9.30. He is regularly awake at 10.30. He gets up for school at 7.45 without a problem.

Over the summer he's been going to bed at 11-11.30 and getting up about 9.30-10.30.

[Boysandme]

I'd like him to have more sleep but he doesn't seem to need it.

[Joyousthings]

8pm lights off no later than 8.30-8.45 on school nights. It is a struggle sometimes and impossible on Tuesdays thanks to out of school activity which makes rest of week difficult sometimes.

[Heyho111]

To sleep your brain needs to produce a hormone called meletonine. You can not sleep without it. Cercadian rythems are our sleep cycle - when we are awake and asleep.
If you do not fall asleep within 20 mins of going to bed your not ready to sleep. Young teens sleep cycles are later than young children or adults. Your dd has matured into this earlier.
Let's her sleep on at weekends this will let her catch up. As she gets older she may not wake at w/e till lunch time. Let her lay in it's the healthiest thing you can do for her.
Let her go to bed later. Laying in the dark for a long time could start a sleep problem like panicking she can't sleep. Let her go up at 9.30 and she will hopefully fall asleep quickly.
She will take the sleep she needs even if she starts catching up at the weekends in the future.

[Dotty342kids]

Good points from heyho there.
My 11.5yr old DS goes up to bed at the same time as his 9.5yr old sister, which is approx. 7.30ish in term time. They can both read till 8.30 ish, then it's lights out. Although it should be said that at least 2-3 nights a week they are out at activities and not home before 8-9pm and they stay up till around 8.30 on a Sat night.
My DS is asleep almost instantly, DD often awake for much longer. They are different, and need different amounts of sleep for their ages.

[MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic]

When she goes back to school, school day bedtime will be 8(ish) and she can read until 9. She then gets up at 7am. She's normally asleep by 9.30.

DS2 at that age was a different story. He still had the 8/9 timetable, but he was often awake at 11pm. We came to an agreement that if he was reading quietly and not disturbing DS1 (who sleeps like the dead) and not having trouble during the day, then I wouldn't enforce lights out. It worked for him. TBH I was the same at that age, and still am - I get up at 7am but am rarely in bed before 12.30am. I just cannot sleep before then.

[Miggsie]

DD goes to bed at 8pm school days and lights out at 9pm.

In holidays there is occasional staying up late if we are round friends, but I find DD really benefits from long sleep and we record post 8pm programmes and she watches them another time so she doesn't miss out.

[bruffin]

She sounds exactly like my dd at that age. I wrote a thread on here about it i was christywhisty

She got a lot better once she started secondary. I did find out that 10/11 year olds need a lot less sleep than teenagers.

[MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic]

Ha! I'm on bruffin's thread (as serenity)

[pennefab]

9/9:30 bedtime, hope for lights out by 10pm. Up 6:45/7am and out the door no later than 7:30. I'd like him to get more sleep, but he totally resists. Not worth arguing about unless he starts getting too grumpy or dark circles under eyes.

[bruffin]

mrsdmitrtippen

[Lonecatwithkitten]

DD (10.5) goes up at 8pm she still likes a story which I finish at 8.15pm. Then she has 30 mins as she calls it 'me time' reading, playing quietly (no devices). Some nights she is out by 9pm sometimes she is still awake when I go to bed at 10pm.
She gets up for school at 7am and sometimes even 6.30am.

[aubreye]

DS (9 but nearly 10) goes to bed at 9:30. He just falls asleep after athletics after school on a Monday, Tuesday and Thursday and Tennis in the evenings on Monday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday. Plus Triathlon after school on a Wednesday and Rugby on a Saturday morning. He's so sporty but gets extremely worn out especially after home exersises he does optionally (press-ups and sit-ups) I can't understand how he can manage 9.5 hours sleep when he's always doing sports.

[Kim82]

Dd1 turned 10 last week. On a school night she's in bed fast asleep by 8pm - she struggles to stay awake any longer than tha. Weekends she sometimes stays up til 8.30pm but more often than not is shattered and in bed for 8. She generally gets up around 7am.

[Chewbecca]

DS is 10 and has a (term time) sleep pattern v similar to you describe. He goes up for bath/shower at 8ish and is in bed before 9 but usually awake at 1030 still. He reads so not the end of the world. Has to be up by 730 for school which is usually a struggle.

So, no answers but you are not alone, it is fairly normal! DS does lie in on the weekend (which is nice!)

[bella1968]

I might be a little late in the day to put a message here but my children are 11 (July), they are usually in bed between 8 and 9pm having had tea between 7-8 sometimes earlier. Having started secondary school now we should all get in at 5.30 whereby I immediately do tea. My stbexh says that eating at 7.15/7.30 then going to bed is eating too late and going to bed too late.

They now have to get up at 7 atm but when their dad doesn't drive them DD will have to leave the house with me at 7.30 and DS a bit later.

Is somewhere between 8 and 9 too late for 11 year olds. Their bedtime used to be 7.30 read till 8 but they almost never read but were in bed mostly at 8. Because that has slipped he says it's too late and not a proper routine.

[ThatBloodyWoman]

9.30 bedtime, but can still be awake at 11 ish.
Then there's a struggle to get up at 7.30.
Mine have to share and they muck about.
They both need more sleep imo.

[iseenodust]

Head on pillow 8-30pm and lights out by 9pm. He gets up at 7am and rarely sleeps in at weekends. DS just 10.