I have a kind, affectionate ds . He had a severe speech delay as a toddler and possible dyspraxia but you would never know now. My frustration is that he will not do anything to push himself even slightly out of his comfort zone, is lazy, has no hobbies or interests (apart from screens). He won't read a book despite being a reasonably able reader and the house being full of books. He won't do any sport, despite enjoying cricket and badminton at school...he won't join a club. He tried drama club and was told he was good at at..refused to go back. He lives on a rubbish diet, despite my best efforts, he refuses to eat fruit or veg despite the fact we always have a full fruit bowl etc.. My dh and I are pretty liberal and we have never ever pressured him to do any of these things..perhaps we should have, my husband annoys me as he just shrugs and won't engage in any activities with my son. I took ds out today with my younger dc and he just complained and sucked all the joy from the day. I would never criticize him directly like this to his face...I have v.critical mother so I know what it is like. I can't even discuss with my dh he won't understand. Pls believe it is not about wanting him to be a high-achiever or anything' I just want him to have some passions and interests other than watching rubbish on you-tube all day. As an avid reader myself who finds reading my greatest pleasure, It breaks my heart he doesn't read at All. I work in mental health and I worry that he is not building up good resilience and mental health for the future. I think his confidence is low, but he will do nothing, nothing to help himself and I am utterly worn out with the effort of trying to encourage, cajole persuade him to eat better and spend less time on x-box and get out in the world. He has good social skills and lots of friends but none live nearby. Should I just give up? What else can I do..I am getting a bit obsessed and sitting here now in tears of frustration.
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