Everyone tells you 12 year old girls are hormonal and difficult. 'It's normal.' I am now in counseling with my daughter - not really sure how much it is going to help. Despite trying everything I can't control her behaviour.
Basically since about age 11 we are finding life with a pre-pubescent extremely taxing. More difficult than life with a 2-year-old. When she gets angry and says something disrespectful I will attempt to take away her phone. She then tries to grab it back and then has taken my phone and run outside with it. She will stalk me around the house when she knows I am trying to remain calm. She slams doors in front of us. She gives us evil wicked looks almost all the time.
We were late for school one morning last year and I told her I had to drop off her two younger siblings first and she freaked out and would barely let me get them ready for school. She wouldn't let it go. 45 minutes of hell.
Its been a year and half now that we get to the end of a weekend and realize that there has been little positive family time at all. I quit my job. I missed two days of work because I felt like I was having a breakdown over it- something I have never done in my entire life - and recently decided the stress of work and kids wasn't worth it. Fortunately we can survive without me working.
I went to her GP and he made referral for counseling that was eventually rejected based on selection criteria, so we are paying private. I'm not sure the counselor gets it. How bad it is.
Its gotten a little better with my husband taking on more of a disciplinarian role with me just trying to talk to her - reach her - because she hates me so thoroughly.
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proudmama2772 · 23/06/2014 21:54
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