dd was upset last night; she says she feels like a 'third wheel' in any friendships at school and not part of anything. She is in yr 7 and says she is a misfit. Most of the other girls in her year are seriously into clothes, make-up, boys and image. They all seem identikit to me with their pouts and Groucho Marx eyebrows. A lot of them are seriously over indulged and have all the labels and lots of spending money. We are ok but not much spare for stuff like that
She is having trouble with 'clicking' with people and forming friendships, not helped by the fact that she hates 1D and boybands, but loves Manga and anime and is perceived as being quirky or a bit wierd
It doesn't help that the school encatchment has a wide radius so anyone who she is vaguely friendly with lives miles away and not on a direct bus route.
not much in the way of afterschool clubs and besides, she has to get the school bus home.
I felt my heart break for her when she was asking a few girls to meet up at a central point one Saturday for her birthday; the deal was that we would stand them a meal at Nandos (or wherever) and a visit to the 1950's style ice cream parlour (v. popular with her year). All refused saying the had other plans but I saw their postings on dd's facebook page later saying "Bored" "Nothing to do " etc and not one wished her a Happy Birthday- I felt like crying for her..
She is lovely..quirky, funny, clever and beautiful- she is emotional, & lacks confidence. I am worried that she doesn't go out much , spending most of her time writing stories or drawing and living too much in her head, becoming a bit obsessive about certain manga characters etc
Would love some advice on this please; am feeling a bit teary today
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