Just came on here to post about DS challenging behaviour & see lots of similar threads so it may just be typical behaviour but I am concerned there may be something more - how do you know - sorry this is long.
DS is a lovely caring happy friendly boy when things are ok with him & at school but at home most of the time his behaviour is becoming more & more challenging.
His recent patterns which seem typical are hates school, waste of time, teachers are stupid, wants to be home schooled, doesn't want to do anything with family unless there's something in it for him otherwise its all a waste of time, thinks everything revolves around him & will annoy & irritate if he has to do something he doesnt want to until it becomes unbearable for everyone else.
He is also extremely jealous of Dsis when in negative mood, makes spiteful comments to her which i think is emotional bullying, says she's ruined his life, annoys & irritates her til she's screaming at him but finds this funny.
He is constantly kicking football , throwing ball, riding skateboard around house despite being told not to numerous times and having screens taken away - next day back to the same.
Constant use of bad language & offensive comments to the point I'm wondering if he has Tourettes (he has had uncontrollable facial movements in the past) as he doesn't seem to be aware of how much he is doing this and what he is saying.
He is particularly good at sports but asking to go in B team rather than A team, not taking up opportunity to play in school hockey team even though specifically asked, given up on outside football team & probably going to give up on outside cricket team ( he is a talented left handed bowler) - will find numerous reasons not to go and it is always a battle to get him there. He is also good at art.
He has been educationally assessed and is mildly dyslexic, has extremely good verbal reasoning skills but poor memory recall skills which are at odds to each other. He is doing ok at school although rushes to get everything done with little care on presentation, spelling, grammer etc although content is good.
My concerns that there maybe something more are he is extremely anxious of new situations or places - holidays are always in the same place more out of habit but also easier on DS. Doesnt like noisy or overcrowded places. Is afraid of the dark and has trouble getting to sleep unless background noise. He currently sleeps in the room with me and has done so for a while as doesnt like being on his own. Has a routine of tucking trousers into socks, curtains & doors have to be closed a certain way, has to take his pillow everywhere - has to have his back rubbed to get to sleep if overly stressed.
When he was younger he used to spend hours lining toys up - soldiers, bricks, threading buttons & beads etc.
I have been prompted on here after a particularly challenging day yesterday -a haircut which wasnt as he wanted it occupied most of the afternoon - DH even offered to take him somewhere else to get it recut. And then at bedtime he has been giving a lead part in school play & has 2 weeks to learn his lines but wants us to email school saying he doesnt want to do it, book dentist for day, be ill anything not to do it and he will go on & on about it
I can see that he has a lot of "fear" - i have bought several books recommended on here to try & help and have spent many hours trying to listen and suggest alternatives for him - but I am now at the point where I am wondering if he needs more help than I can give him.
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DS 12 SEEMS LIKE TYPICAL BEHAVIOUR BUT CONCERN COULD BE SOMETHING MORE
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piginpoo · 27/04/2014 09:38
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