how do you help a challenging pre teen avoid upsetting his friends?

[lu9months]

my 11 ds has always been very intense and challenging. he is bright and does very well at school, but has never had close friends, though he has people who are happy to kick a ball around with him or go on the computer with him. he has a really nice female friend who came over today, but he spent most of his time getting frustrated that his phone wasn't working, and ignored her - she ended up playing with his brother. I took the phone away from him and explained he was in danger of losing a friendship, but I am not sure he really cares. he finds it hard to see things from someone elses point of view. his friend asked if they could play table tennis but he refused and carried on on the computer. when I insisted they went out and played, he was crowing over how much better he was then her and just generally being a pain. I don't suppose she will want to come back, and I feel sad for him. when I approach the subject with him he just says I am being mean about him, and he gets angry with me and feels sorry for himself - please help me help himself so he doesn't end up friendless at secondary school.

[gamerchick]

I don't think you can sadly. Kids have to find their own way in that area.. as hard as it is to watch. You can remind them about being rude if you witness it, but that's about it I think.