I posted the other day about my dd (10) who is defiant, argumentative and sometimes aggressive. Per advice there I've ordered how to talk to kids book but want some advice on how to approach am issue that is a major flash point.
Brief side notes:
We potentially have DPs niece coming tomorrow ( was possibility of it happening today, but I haven't told DD that that's not happening) She missed cinema (again) because she didn't get ready in time. 2h 15 m to get a shower and lift a jigsaw off the guest bed. An hour work max.
So the major issue for me this am is mess..
Her room will take 15 mins IF she buckled down.
Her breakfast dishes are sitting out since 7am. Supper and snack plates/cutlery/cups sitting on top if dishwasher. Switching on dishwasher is her chore-needs done. (2-3 min work)
She made mess in living room. Sofa cushions off, DVDs spread over floor and wrappers from food shoved under sofa- not much stuff just looks bad! (take 5 mins to clear)
2 card games out in the playroom for last 4 days. (3 mins to tidy)
She had a shower with minimal fuss (yay- lots of praise given) but left puddles, wet towels and dirty clothes in a trail down hall. (take 5 min to clear)
Den - pulled out stuff for a nosey and left on floor ( 3 min to tidy)
Stairs - small collection of stuff to go up to her room that she continually walks past. (1 trip upstairs)
So lots of little things that make house look so messy. I don't feel that at age 10 I should be sorting these for her. But she has screamed, slammed doors, huffed and is currently reading a book, looking up to give me death glares when I walk past her.
I would be mortified if someone came to the door right now but trying to stay calm. What would you do?
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Bluecarrot · 22/08/2013 11:35
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