I've read a few similar threads on here but didn't want to hijack.
My dd can be v living and sweet and thoughtful. Just how I imagined my kids would be! Unfortunately, there's also another side to her, like the flick of a switch she becomes a moody "Kevin" or a screaming banshee...
I'm having major issues with her taking food. Well. When I say food it's actually things like icing fondant or Betty Crocker ready mix choc icing that she knew was for her teachers thank you cake/nanas birthday cake. She takes marshmallows even though we had discussed the recipie we would use them with the following night etc. first, I made her replace the stuff out if her pocket money. Soon she was taking so much that she actually owed me 2 weeks pocket money ( that she hasn't earned yet) . I cracked down more and said that's the limit and until the debt was repaid the iPod would be confiscated as well as the food needing replaced. She now hasn't had the iPod in months. What she is taking is usually bought the week it will be used unless its on offer, so she knows she will be found out pretty much instantly.
Of course she also lies about above and other things too. Steals my makeup - i fave her some but she decided to use mine too.. and leave it smeared over bathroom. Yesterday I told her at 3pm she needed to get washed inc her hair, before beftime at 8.30. She had the option if a shower ( hates) or a bath. If she wanted to let her hair dry naturally (which she prefers), she needed to be washing it before 7pm. I reminded her once gently, trying to give her a bit if responsibility etc. instead she washed under her arms with face cloth, soaking floor etc and then lied to me about having done it and said she dried her hair with hair drier while I was out at the washing line. I pointed out that shower and bath were dry, her hair didn't look or smell washed and so I was sure she was lying. She continued to lie for ages before eventually screaming at me and at one point thought she was going to hit me. She has done before several times. I have had to physically restrain her maybe a dozen times as I couldn't get past her and away safely.
She is lazy- leaves every room a mess and through some v creative thinking makes it all my fault ( I told her to go get washed or set table etc) DP is also a bit messy and I cracked last night at the both if them.
I'm 20 weeks pregnant and feeling v unenergetic and v hormonal.
I confiscated the wii (cable only) about 2 weeks ago. She doesn't have her iPod due to icing theft and we don't have tv channels. Today she searched my room and has taken the wii cable. She has finished a half packet of mini marshmallows, ignored my requests to lift her washing and stuff from all over the house. She doesn't know I know about mallows or cable yet.
She went out with a "friend" for an hour who isn't a bad influence but isn't really a nice person - a bit bitchy and sly. They came back from the park and dd was upset because a group of girls for her school, who she played with up til June plus her "friend" were saying she was weird etc. she pretended not to hear and kept playing with the other younger kids. I was her 18 years ago in the sense I was v quiet and had a few close friends. I was picked on and just put my head down and tried not to cry. I don't know what to say to dd now.
With her transfer exams coming in November, baby with my new DP ( who she adores) coming in January and a lot of hormones flying around the house it all seems a bit of a mess. I'm prone to depression so thinking I should see a dr soon. I know DDs behaviour isn't normal but if I can't react "right" then it's not going to get better.
Does anyone have any tips for me? What would you do in this situation?
My two best friends, and my parents are all outbox the country so no back up ATM. DP away til Thursday too.
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