'She's pretty isn't she?'
'Do you think x is pretty DD1?'
'Am I pretty mummy?'
I tell her she is very pretty/beautiful/ lovely looking and often follow it with and you're very thoughtful/generous/ often kind which is really more important.
But I feel uncomfortable with how often she asks. Also she looks in the mirror a lot in quite a posey way, sometimes when I'm washing her hair and sometimes when I'm reading to her. It gives me the pip actually. I've told her if we're reading, we're reading and that she can look in the mirror in her own time.
Yesterday she asked me if she was vain. I said I thought she was a bit. Said it wasn't a terrible thing and agreed with her that I am also a bit vain.
i expect it's born of insecurity, being a second girl, comparing herself. But DD1 doesn't seem half as interested in what she looks like.
I've been on the brink of shouting 'stop gawping at yourself in the bloody mirror' on occasion How can I encourage good all round self esteem? Would you accept this preening? Encourage it even? DD2 is very slim and athletic, a really lovely shape, do I maybe sound jealous Any good books?
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