Jezabel - should I take offence?

(32 Posts)
Witco Tue 19-Mar-13 22:45:47

My daughter made her confirmation last week and I emailed a few photos to my MIL who replied that she looked like a Jezabel! I am trying hard not to take offence! She was wearing a knee length dress from Mango and a tailored jacket, no make up or jewellery. WTF? DH says I am over-reacting but I don't see how?

Witco Wed 27-Mar-13 00:11:15

It turns out that DD was looking I Er her shoulder in one photo and that prompted the "looking like a Jezabel" remark. I told MIL that I thought it was a very strange thing to say about a young girl and that she was not to share her thoughts with DD under any circumstances. I felt better for that. Thanks for the support MNers!

Fleecyslippers Sat 23-Mar-13 20:56:30

I would be beyond furious. Are you confident that she won't share her opinions with your daughter ?

QueenOfCats Fri 22-Mar-13 22:38:16

Not a nice comment at all. But it sounds like your dd wore something totally appropriate for the occasion from what you've said - I bet she looked lovely!

I would ignore (hard as that may be)

Ladies of a certain age don't approve of anything not down to the ankles or up to the throat anyway! grin

Slightly unrelated, I have a cousin called Isabel who DP called Jazabel for ages no matter how many times he was corrected - he was mortified when he found out what it meant grin

DeepRedBetty Fri 22-Mar-13 22:32:32

I'd be angry if anyone called either dd a Jezebel. I remember one of my grannies used to use it a lot. Normally with 'painted' in front. A synonym for 'strumpet'.

Witco Fri 22-Mar-13 22:29:16

Off to Devon in the morning to see what on earth Mil is on about. Lots of long walks I think!

Notmyidea Wed 20-Mar-13 16:20:25

that's a horrible thing to have said! I hope your mil has got muddled and wasn't intending to be malicious.

ZZZenAgain Wed 20-Mar-13 14:19:54

maybe back in the 1950s white would have been usual (when they wore those robes in red/white). Your dd sounds as if she was dressed the way most girls would be for it. Was the dress black maybe? That could be it, I suppose, still very strange comment. When I see group photos, the girls either have on trousers and a top or a dress, skirt with top. Quite a few seem to wear black.

I will be hard put getting my dd into a dress for hers so she will be one of those in trousers and a top.

Kendodd Wed 20-Mar-13 14:15:42

As an aside, I love the name Jezebel. I suggested it for one of my DD's, wisely it wasn't used. Still a beautiful name though, shame about the baggage.

ZZZenAgain Wed 20-Mar-13 14:14:55

that's a very strange comment for her to have made

TobyLerone Wed 20-Mar-13 14:14:07

I wouldn't be best pleased about that.

I can't remember what I wore for my confirmation, but it definitely wasn't white.

Bunbaker Wed 20-Mar-13 14:12:33

Jezebel was a Queen of Israel. She persecuted Jews and was not a very nice person. The name is generally associated with evil, harlotry and madness.

I have never heard of a Disney Princess calles Jezabel.

CostaTen Wed 20-Mar-13 14:11:47

She didn't say she looks like Jezael though did she? She said she looks like a Jezabel and in my book that means one thing. You are not overreacting OP and I would definitely challenge her about it face to face.

seeker Wed 20-Mar-13 13:47:09

She must have got her words muddled up. There are people on here who thought that a Jezebel was a Disney princess-it's something like that- I couldn't be more sure.

Witco Wed 20-Mar-13 13:45:32

I think it would be better not to email back. I'm seeing her on Saturday so I will raise it then and see what she says. Stupid woman! Thanks all

Mumofjz Wed 20-Mar-13 12:46:33

Jezabel would mean a bit tarty in my eyes and would definately be a bit miffed and would probably ask her to clarify.

I think she's probably got her words mixed up.

Movingtimes Wed 20-Mar-13 09:02:37

That would infuriate me, but are you sure MIL knew what she was saying? If she did then you are definitely not overreacting - that is an appalling thing to say, especially as her outfit sounds perfectly appropriate for the occasion. I would certainly email MIL back and politely ask her to clarify that comment. It is NOT ok to let her think that nasty digs like that will pass unchallenged.

SissySpacekAteMyHamster Wed 20-Mar-13 09:01:47

Maybe she was thinking that she should be in white. In the film Jezebel Bette Davis wears a colourful dress instead of the white one she should (if I remember correctly).

I would try not to take offence as often things said in writing don't come across the same as spoken, so maybe she wasn't meaning to be offensive.

Witco Wed 20-Mar-13 08:56:53

I haven't asked her what she means (it was an email). DH thinks I should just ignore it and I probably will it just p!ssed me off. DD looked beautiful and modest and I hate the fact that MIL chose to see something else and had to have a dig.

noisytoys Tue 19-Mar-13 23:35:49

You're right my bad sadsmile

seeker Tue 19-Mar-13 23:34:35

I am pretty sure there isn't a Disney princess called Jezebel!

Did you ask her what she meant? Could you have misheard or she got her words muddled? It does seem a very odd thing to say.....

Witco Tue 19-Mar-13 23:30:11

I'm trying Notquite! Grrrrrr!

Notquite Tue 19-Mar-13 23:27:34

<searches cast list of Enchanted but only finds Giselle>

I suspect/hope MiL isn't entirely aware of the significance of her own reference, but I can see why you're a little hmm

Roll eyes and ignore.

noisytoys Tue 19-Mar-13 23:25:33

I don't know another Jezabel (mid 20s, 2DDs all I know is Disney princesses), but from your description your DD looked beautiful and perfect for the occasion smile

Witco Tue 19-Mar-13 23:20:43

Ah! I doubt it, MIL is 70 and not in the cinema too much these days. AIBU do you think?

noisytoys Tue 19-Mar-13 23:17:21

Enchanted

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