Help! I need a new tactic. DD is 11. She still has the most awful table manners. I am like a stuck record. We eat at the table for almost every meal (maybe once a fortnight in living room for a treat). We eat out fairly often, and with other people, and I have been asking / telling / bribing / insisting / downright shouting at her to eat nicely eg mouth closed, no fingers since she was 18 months old. Maybe even younger.
When I remind her she does it. Then within 2 or 3 minutes she forgets again. Every single day. I have tried sticker charts. I have tried rewards, praise, everything. She's an otherwise bright kid and can usually pick something up from one telling. She just doesn't care. My mum says she's like a cat - you can only train her to do it if she wants to!
She's reaching the pre-teen moody and rebellious phase, and what used to be low-level mealtime nagging is turning into a battleground. I'm trying to back off from being on her back unnecessarily, and following the advice on this board to not sweat the small stuff. It's just I'm not sure this is small. At what point do I admit defeat and let her grow up with terrible table manners? I can't still be nagging her about this at 25? Can I?
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Alternative to nagging about table manners - any ideas?
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Vicky13 · 22/01/2013 21:50
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