It wont work
I wont like it
Its boring
I don't like it
It will go wrong
He was properly worried about the Mayan end of the world.
This negativity is driving me round the twist. Its not a new thing but it is getting much worse - he has ruined many days trips because he doesn't want to go because he is sure that we will get lost/it will rain/the swings will break/we will get a puncture/the world will end/pick your disaster!
This is now handicapping his schooling - he won't try at school or his homework because it is never right/ he will fail/ the teacher hates him/ everyone else is much cleverer...
He won't even watch a new TV show because he knows that he hates it before he has even seen it
The rest of the family is generally positive and upbeat but DS's attitude effects us all, it makes planning activities hard and has even got to the point that we leave him at home because he is so negative about everything that we cannot cope with him.
DS is not stupid and up to this year actually got good results in some subjects, he is dyslexic so languages are a struggle but maths and science he is in the top sets.
I'm worried that he is really unhappy and isolated as no one else shares his pessimism.I have made this sound a little light hearted but I really could do with some help here, is there any way through this negativity? I am finding that I'm becoming increasingly irritated with him which is just confirming his belief that he is not loved etc. Generally (obviously) his pessimism is completely unfounded and things are fine but we are in a vicious cycle with his attitude and my intolerance of it.
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Are pessimists Happy? DS (12) is driving me crazy with his negativity
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BlipbipBeep · 09/01/2013 14:29
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