Ds is 12. Is a mostly well behaved and polite child.
Can be very lazy, messy and a touch ungrateful at times.
In the past when he has not done as asked (tidying room, helping around the house etc) he has either been grounded (only a day or two) or had his ps3 removed.
He had a laptop for xmas and was told if he didnt look after it he would have it taken away. Found it last week with a big crack in it. Took it straight off him .
Since then he had been exeptionally lazy. Not washing or brushing teeth. Same boxers on for days etc, even when asked repeatedly to sort himself out. His room is minging. Mouldy food and cups stuffed in drawers with brand new clothes.
He has been asked to go to bed a bit earlier than normal to get ready for school for sunday night. I caught him playing on his ps3 when he thought I was sleeping.
I have given him loads of warning s that if he didnt buck up his ideas he would lose the ps amd all the nice things he had for xmas. He hasnt listenedso everything is gone from his room. Tv, ps, phone amd all the new clothes he had.
He's gone over his dads today and is refusing to come home.
Was I too harsh?
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was this too harsh a punishment?
MikeLitoris · 08/01/2013 17:33
Should have bought some medals to hand out to anyone who manages to stay awake through that stupidly long post 
No. I have found that my dd's 15 & 11 will push and push until we dramatically say enough is enough. It only happens once or twice a year. Thankfully 
Give him a chance to 'earn' the stuff back. Tidy room = something back.
I put it down to boundary testing. It seems to come from nowhere and disappears just as quickly. I would describe my dc's as great kids too. Perhaps they need to rebel just a little regardless?
Just to add dd2 picked 2 keys off her lap top. Its been taken way until next year as we decided she wasn't mature enough for such an item.
We are probably much harsher than you
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