DD being a nightmare most evenings, and increasingly mornings too. Toddler type tantrums about hair brushing, wrong coat, not sleeping in unsuitable clothes, yet another pre-bed drink/snack etc etc etc ad bloody infinitum. I think her periods will start before she is 10, as she has been hairy and BO-y for over a year now, and staring to get beginnings of breast development.
We have tried sticker charts with trips to McDs (her choice) as reward. Stickers to earn an hour of favourite TV progs. Withdrawal of planned sleepover as a punishment. Threats of calling teachers (she is an angel at school and adores her teacher). None of these have really worked. She plays the system and then gives us a mega bad night as if to say nah-nah-na-na-na.
It is really affecting all of us - DH has gone to bed tonight with a migraine, DS (12) in tears of frustration with her, and me constantly shattered and on the verge of tears at work when I think about her.
We have planned a room swap at home and she is due to move into a bigger bedroom and has clear ideas of how she wants it, including high level bed, glitter ball, particular carpet etc. would appreciate thoughts on whether requiring her to 'earn' each stage of redecoration/furnishing might work in getting better behaviour over the longer term. Eg a week of good bedtimes = we go and buy the paint. One more week = get the decorator in. Another week gets the carpet and so on. Feasible for us to do? Achievable for her? Tips for making it work?
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Would this reward system work for 9yo DD?
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partystress · 08/12/2012 23:06
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