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11.5 year old dd still seems to prefer us to friends

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Dancergirl · 02/12/2012 00:49

I'm sure I'm probably worrying over nothing but dd1 doesn't seem to have a very good social life compared to her peers. She's in Year 7 at a girls' school and seems v happy, has settled in well and talks about friends. I've said she can invite friends over whenever she likes or she makes some arrangements to see friends etc but it hardly ever happens and she seems happy just hanging around with us at home.

Today was her school Christmas fair. There seemed to be loads of Year 7s all going around together and I asked dd if she wanted to see her friends. She texted one girl but she didn't reply. Dd is quite shy and I wondered if she did want to go round with the other girls but maybe didn't know how to break in. In the end she just wandered around with me, dh and dd3 and we went home after an hour or so. Dd seemed happy enough but I'm worrying that it's bothering her and won't admit it.

Anyone else like this?

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Feckbox · 02/12/2012 00:56

My 12 yo daughter is exactly the same.
I just enjoy it . She'd rather hang out with me than with anyone else.

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ggirl · 02/12/2012 01:16

my friends ds was like this , he was happy within the family up until about yr9/10 then he became more interested in friends and going out.

I think it was a confidence thing , just took longer than other kids to gain it. Nothing to worry about .

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MyCatsRule · 02/12/2012 08:15

I was the same until 14/15! I hope my dd is too. It's lovely she enjoys your company!

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myfavoritedayismonday · 03/12/2012 12:17

Hi, my daughter is similar, I think for most of them it takes a long time to really settle in to secodary school and make friends.

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Dancergirl · 03/12/2012 12:40

Thanks all, feel much better now! She does have friends at school and does seem happy so I probably shouldn't worry.

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FaultLines · 03/12/2012 13:38

My daughter is similar, so it's reassuring to see all these positive replies. I supect that there are times when I worry too much (perhaps you are the same, dancegirl?), so it's good to see others viewing this type of behaviour as just another way of growing up.

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