My DD is in year 7 of a mixed independant. She has been generally happy there, although the increase in workload from juniors has been a bit of a shock and we have had recent issues with her lying about homework and general lack or organisation.
Tomorrow they have own clothes day for Charity, something that she would usually be excited over. Tonight she told me that she had decided she was going to wear normal unifom as she "wasn't bothered" .
After some gentle questioning, during which she said "she didnt want to stand out" and I had to point out that by being in uniform when everyone else wasn't, thats exactly what she WOULD be doing,She told me that she didnt want to wear anything that drew attention to her fat Body, as the boys at school had already told her she was Fat and Ugly, and she did not want to give them anything else to say about her.
She then went on to say that two boys in particular have been saying things like "you could Sue McDonalds for making you that fat" and told her she has no friends because she is fat and ugly. This has been going on, not constantly but once or twice a week for most of the term it seems.
She has not got alot of friends, but is liked by the staff and other girls. She is a bookworm though, being socially awkward and prefering to grab the paperback she always has in her pocket rather than say, walk up to her peers in the playground and make the effort to engage.
Sorry this is all a bit jumbled, as I am tired and she tumbled all this out in between sobbing. It would also appear, in a seperate incident last week, one of these boys hit her in the stomach four times during a tussles over a book and we have not been informaed about any of this by the school - I am going to contact them tomorrow to discuss all of the above.
We have sent her off to bed with lots of hugs and reassurances. I had sorted out a flattering but non body showing outfit for tomorrow that she is happy with (She IS overweight, but carries it so most folk dont realise. She has also taken up exercise to help herself) I feel so sad for her and want to do the best for her, resisting urge to go sort these little shits out at school gates so need constructive advice if anyone can help please!
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dobby2001 · 27/11/2012 22:58
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