my dd is now 12 and last summer was best friends with another girl X who had gone to her junior school and then left in Yr 5.Their friendship picked up and blossomed over the suumer and they started senior school together as best friends but then after several months X just started ignoring my dd. DD had intervened when X hit another girl and had asked her to stop, dd was told to shut up. DD had also tried to stop some boys getting X's bag and was blamed for it getting ripped. X kept 'blanking' her in school and seemed to enjoy the attention that she was getting because she would n't speak to dd. My DD is very upset as she has n't done anything to deserve this and became very stressed as she now had basically all the class asking why she was n't speaking to X when in fact it was the other way round!. When I saw X's mum she said that she'd seen sides of her daughter that she had n't seen before and she was just getting to know her!! She was keen for them to stay friends, but she does n't seem to want to make any effort for this to happen. X's mum puts X's behaviour all down as part of growing up.
X brags she's going to work in the factory her father manages, and trys to get attention either by behaviour, haircut, skirt lengths, hanging about with boys etc.X has bragged at school that she has been to 7 primary schools. (they've lived in the same community, and we know that they has 'issues' at the last junior school, including bullying others)
I sought the help of the school who saw X's behaviour as bullying. My DD has accepted that X is no longer her 'best friend', only a friend. They both agreed this was the way foward, mutual respect etc. We thought this was the end of it.
My DD is now in Yr8. The term started with X returning something which we'd given her last Sept. I told my DD to ignore this. X is now encouraging others in the 'friendship group' to 'fire the shots' e.g. hiding school bag, talking about DD and then stopping when she comes into the room, leaving her out of things etc. X is now telling others in school that her father is a fashion designer (he isn't) but others are saying 'thats really cool!!' My daughter knows that X is lying and it winds her up that she knows the truth. X is trying to get DD to 'lose it' at school- I've said if she feels angry just to walk away and say she's got be somewhere else. X gloats over anything that dd does n't get right. My DD feels as if she's being criticised all the time at school by X but feels that she needs to hang with this friendship group as there's no other girls in her class. DD has now started helping others with homework in order to keep friends. X is making my DD life's a misery. It all sounds small and petty but when you're 12 its not. what can i do??
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woolyscarf · 11/10/2012 15:22
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