And it's causing no end of argument in the mornings. I get up at 6.20, go wake her and expect her to be downstairs by 7.15 ready to leave 10 minutes later. She refuses to eat breakfast so I've given up on that point.
What happens is I ask her to get up about 10 times, each time getting more annoyed. I have to tell her to wash, brush her teeth, put on deoderant, do her hair - everything multiple times and it's been like this since she was 8 years old.
She comes downstairs at a snail's pace 1 minute before we need to leave, frequently with stuff still to do such as pack her bag. If we miss the bus, I have to drive her the 1 hour round trip and don't really see why I should tbh. My DP says I should just leave her in bed and tell the school she is sick and she'll soon see I'm not going to run around after her both of us getting upset because we end up in a screaming row. Going to school is non-negotiable for me and there's no way I'd leave her in bed, which is what she wants.
She now tells me she's always having to pretend at school that she's not upset at the way I shout at her so her friends don't know how horrible I am. I'm at my wits end and really don't know how to deal with her. Her father isn't around and when she spends the summer holidays with him, he just lets her lay in bed until 2/3pm in the afternoon and stay up all night.
Btw, on a weekend, I let her sleep in but today she had to attend the school open day and it was the worst Saturday I've had for a long time!!!
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ItsRainingOutside · 06/10/2012 15:49
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