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DDs bruises

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jobekal · 15/12/2007 10:46

she started in october. On second day she fell in the garden there and they put a note in her bag to say she had fallen date and time it happened, that she had a red mark on her knee and they swabbed it with a mediwipe. The mark had actually been there before she went as she had fallen at home so it was a minor incident and they still dealth with it and informed us.

Yet, later in the first week she came home with several bruises on her leg, they said they knew nothing about it. She has difficulty communicating so when asked what happened she just said happened. 2 or 3 weeks later she had a nasty graxe at the base of her spine and then this week came home with two bruises on her face she now talk more and said hurt me naughty boy but again the nursery knew nothing about it and now she keeps talking about this naughty boy and saying he made her cry and i am really shocked that they didnt notice anything> i know it must be impossible to watch them all all the time but for something that hurt her that much and if she did cry surely they should have known she was crying and asked her about it?

and then she came home on thursday with a bleeding knee and the cut was very dirty but when i rang nursery they said she did fall over but they checked her knees and they werent bleeding

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JingleBelgoHoHoHo · 15/12/2007 10:48

How old is she?

Did you not notice her bleeding knee when you picked her up on thursday?

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jobekal · 15/12/2007 10:53

she is nearly 4, her dad fetched her and we saw she had muddy tights, and then she sat dwon and said look blood, and we took her tights down and there was a dirty cut

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JingleBelgoHoHoHo · 15/12/2007 11:00

It sounds like they didn't check her knees underneath the tights.

I would talk to the school about this, because that does sound like a lot of bruises.

Children will always play rough and hurt each other, but you need to make sure the school is aware of what's happening, and deals with it when it happens. (eg. cleaning her cut knee).

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nametaken · 15/12/2007 12:00

Yes I would be livid if my dd came home from nursery with non accidental bruising.

First you need to speak to the nursery then you need to speak to your dd and find out the other boys name and if the nursery don't stop it from happening (what I mean is, once you've spoken to nursery it shouldn't be allowed to happen again)you will have to speak to the other childs parents. Thats always fun (not).

Good luck

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yULeYSEES · 15/12/2007 12:06

Are you out at work? Is there any chance you could help out for a day? I'd be worried too if it were me.
Hope it gets sorted out soon poor wee lamb

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JingleBelgoHoHoHo · 15/12/2007 12:08

I doubt that the school will give the name of the little boy, and I certainly wouldn't recommend going yourself to the parents of this little boy, that could potentially turn into a nasty situation.

It should be up to the nursery to deal with it, and I hope they do.

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nametaken · 15/12/2007 13:21

LOL jinglebelgohohoho, of course if will turn nasty if you go to the parents - where do you think the child got this sort of behaviour from in the first place.

Nursery won't give the name out (nor should they IMO) but your right when you say it's up to the nursery to deal with it. It's just that they can't always.

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ChopsterRoastingOnAnOpenFire · 15/12/2007 14:09

I've got to say I don't agree that it will turn nasty if you speak to the parents. I've had problems with my ds1 being bullied, and he points out children who have hurt him and I have approached parents and it has been completely civilised.
Children often go through stages and their parents can't deal with it unless they know about it. The parents I've spoken to have been nothing but polite.

The other thing I had to do was keep reinforcing to ds1 that he must report anything to the teachers.

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yurt1 · 15/12/2007 14:39

'of course if will turn nasty if you go to the parents - where do you think the child got this sort of behaviour from in the first place'

Oh for goodness sake these are pre-schoolers we're talking about, not 17 year old hoodies! However, I wouldn't talk to the parents- it's the nursery that need to be keeping an eye. The parents can't do much if they're not there. And at pre-school level it is not bullying.

I'm not sure its that many bruises for an active child- all 3 of mine are covered in bruises, some from home, some from school/nursery, some presumably from each other. I would ask the nursery workers about the 'naughty boy'. If she has difficulty communicating you might not get the full story anyway (for example the boy might have done something accidentally). I would expect them to notice if she shouted out, but she may not have. Have a chat with them, share your concerns, ask them to report back. I doubt they'll discuss the other boy with you though as that would be inappropriate.

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jobekal · 16/12/2007 07:42

thanks for your replies she doesnt know the boys name, i'm not realluy able to help out at nursery as also have a baby and toddler, hopefully they will take note of what i've said

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nosnikrap · 19/12/2007 21:18

I would ask to see the nursery's accident AND incident book and ask for the behaviour policy to be reviewed. Also they shouldn't be using mediwipes just water or an ice pack. Make sure you keep a diary of dates and injuries and perhaps ask to sit in on a session. If you notice anything untoward ask how they are going to deal with it.

They are definitely not allowed to discuss the boy. Just re cap policy on behaviour in general.

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mumofhelen · 21/12/2007 20:39

Do you know any other children from the nursery? When things like that happen, and the nursery staff claim ignorance (or worse, claim she/he came to nursery with the bruise) I ask the other children to tell me what happen. Watch the staff at the nursery wince and cringe with embarassment, especially if they knew all about it. There's one particularly articulate 4 year old at my dd nursery. Very helpful at clearing these sort of mysteries. Worse still for the staff, all the parents know each other well (we've all been to each other's houses) so support each other when these sort of things happen. A sort of parents pack.

Bear in mind that children scratch, bite, fall, bruise etc so don't take it too personally. These things have a habit of occuring but the staff should not lie to you.

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