ds1, 3.8, pushing and kicking at nursery - nothing working to stop it

[MrsLukaKovac]

My ds1 started nusery in september every afternoon. DS2 was born end of July. DS1 is pushing and kicking at nurrsery, completely unprovoked, pretty much all the time. He has never been agressive before. He is also very articulate so unlikely that he is frustrated at not being able to express himself.

Teachers have tried the usual 'that is bad behaviour' and 'time out' but now feel that this is giving him more attention which they think is why he does it; ie just to get an adult's attention.

Please, any advice very very welcome. Which strategies can be employed to sort this out? He is normally so very sweet and loving. He has never been aggressive to ds2 now 4 months.

If they are right and he is doing it for attention, should we all just ignore it, to show no attention for bad behaviour?

At the moment he osn't making any firneds because he is scaring them all away. I can't bare to think of him being this way at nursery- what can I do?

[flooplowder]

I would take ds1 out of playschool for a little while imo, as it seems to me that he might be doing this as a way to express his feelings about your ds2