Am I being too precious and should I just shrug this off?

[Bellie]

Not really sure so thought I would ask mn wisdom!

DD has been at nursery since April, and really loved it! Happily runs off into the room and can't wait to get ready in the morning.
Until this morning - she was very quiet on the way to nursery and when I asked her what was wrong she said that 'x is a monster to me'. I said not to worry as x had dressed as a monster last week and that she was not a monster now, and if she was a monster to her again to say 'x I don't like it when you are a monster stop it please'. Anyway she went off quiet happily.

When I picked her up today the nursery head had a word that dd and x had been fighting and been very foreceful with each other. They are strong personalities and dd needs to share better with x. I asked her what dd had done and she said she had been telling x to stop it. Anyway it apparently this then ended in both of them tantruming on the floor. (still not sure what it was all about), but they both ended on the quiet chair to think about it.

Whilst dd was at nursey I was having coffee with x's mum, and she said that x had told her that Megan is always on the quiet chair. (news to me and the nursery teacher has never mentioned it).

On odd occassions we have had playdates with x and x has always run to her mum about things that have happened,. I have also seen x shut dd in a playhouse and hold the door shut and when I intervened (x's mum in toilet) ran to her mum crying that dd had been the one to shut her in not the otherway round, even though I had seen her do it!

I am starting to think that x is a bully and that dd is trying to stand up for herself but maybe I am reading too much into it?

dd is nearly 3 and x is nearly 4 by the way.

What do you think (and thank you for getting this far!)

[colditz]

I think, to be fair, that X is a fairly normal and slightly more resiliant little girl. I understand your concerns, but the other child isn't a bully - just not fabulously behaved.

[Bellie]

thank you - probably pfb syndrome - but just wanted to check! No real experience of how this age should interact no other family to see it in action!

[Roarindrunk]

Conflict like this , although not nice for parents , helps in the childrens devlopmnt as they learn how to mange conflist and negioate .

the child is not a bully , both her and your daughter are developing their socail skills . I know it sounds daft but they are leanring how to interact with children and sometimes these things happen . as long as the nursery has their eye on it dont worry .

[Bellie]

That's exactly it roarindrunk - I hate conflict, and whilst every bone in my body was screaming 'wade in and sort it out for her' I tried to think that it will do her better in the long run to sort it herself, as part of her learning.