I would like to know what other people think about this situation I have created for myself.
DD who is September-born will not be going to state primary school until September 2008. She is an only child.
She attended nursery from 10 months for 2 x 2 hour sessions (very gradually introduced) at a local private school nursery purely because it was recommended and also because our local school did not offer child care until the age of 2 years.
Going to this nursery gave me a break (as none of my family were around & my in-laws who are local were not willing to help). I also think it was good for her to mix with children of her own age.
We run a small business from home so it was good to get on top of things, but it made me realise how much better the whole experience was then the local school (more motivated parents, healthier snacks etc)
When it came to thinking about pre-schools I did not like the local state school's attitude at all and found a much better smaller, friendlier school which is a 2 mile drive away as opposed to a walk down the road.
So in September 2007 she started 2 pre-schools 2 days each a week.
She seemed to be happier with the new state school pre-school and tended to cry sometimes at her usual private pre-school she'd attended.
We decided about 6 months ago we could not afford for her to go to the private school when she reached school age (we may start a savings plan for her to go there for secondary school though). So primary was going to be at the state school 2 miles away.
Then I met a new friend who said there was a "dirt cheap" primary private school which I have been taking dd to for 1 morning a week (to see how she got on with writing copying and other learning) She seemd to love this learning and took great interest in the reading book she was given to take home with her. The private school intake is from 3 and half and there are only 20 pupils in the entire school which makes it friendly, but a bit limiting in terms of extra-curricular activities.
As dd only goes to the above private school 1 morning (and the occasional whole day) she is sometimes very clingy when I take her there which worries me that she is not happy there.. She always seems to have enjoyed it at the end of the day though! (same old story ??.)
I often find myself thinking about various combinations of how I can improve on the situation ie 2 days here, 1 day there etc.
The main thing that worries me that if she were to start now full-time at the cheap private school is that I could be messing her up in terms of year groups (she would be in fact a year ahead if she were then going to go to State School and I worry about her being bored in State school because of this).
DD's friend is 2 months older than her (July birthday) and is now there full-time. * However, I still cannot get out of the mindset that until recently she was still more than a year away from starting school *.
I wish I'd never known about this cheap private school, as it is by no means perfect. The whole school has about 20 pupils and because of its size there are mixed classes and the curriculum is quite basic compared to the experiences of a bigger school. However there are advantages such as small class sizes, individual attention.
Sorry about the long-winded description, but the main thing I'd like to ask is:
Should I be sending her to so many pre-schools?
In an ideal world, I would like to send her to her favourite pre-school (the state one 2 miles up the road), but the long-standing private pre-school offers holiday cover & extra hours should I need it (I now run a small business of my own, which is for about 6 hours a week, as well as the business we run from home).
The combination of the above 2 pre-schools is what worked reasonably well before the 3rd school came into the equation.
Should I forget the 3rd school and just resort to it should her state primary school turn into a disaster (if I decide to go along this route, which seems mre likely)?
Please let me know as I'm getting more confused by the day and I truly want dd to be as happy and stimulated as possible ( I want to help her reach her full potential without giving her stress, which I seem to be experiencing myself at this moment).
Thank you so much guys
Notsosure xxxxxxx
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notsosure · 28/06/2007 22:15
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