A few times now DD has mentioned X taking her colours, emptying her snack on the table etc. Not bothered about it - children don't all like each other and some show it in different ways to others etc.
Today I went to collect her and had to sign the accident book - she had hit her head on the cupboard, had cold water applied, all fine.
She came out telling me that X had hit her today, but then excitement of lunch etc and all was forgotten.
In the car on the way to get DH from work and I finally got the opportunity to talk to her again. I asked how she hurt herself on the cupboard at school (thinking fell into it, leaned too far back etc).
She said she didn't. X hit her.
I explained that I knew he'd hit her, but I wanted to know what happened with the cupboard.
No, X hit her. She had magic water on it. He was told to say sorry and sit on the mat.
I asked if he hit her and she fell onto the cupboard etc...
She is adamant no cupboard is involved. Just X and his hand.
We went through the whole not making up stories, that mummy gets cross with lies and that even if she tells the truth now it will mean I'm not cross because she has told the truth.
No - she is adamant no cupboard, just X.
I know children hit each other etc, I don't mind. What I do mind is that clearly something is going on here... either DD is lying a lot which is very unlike her (she is still young enough to crack under questioning) and I need to address it now, or the preschool are telling me lies about how she got hurt - which DOES concern me. If they are lying about that how the hell do I trust what they have told me about watching her for AS traits?!?!
How do I deal with it without saying "I think you're lying to me?"
I know that children make things up, but I also know my daughter and that she doesn't stick with her story for long once she has been rumbled.
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Not sure who is bending the truth - preschool or DD... advice on how to deal with it please!
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Flame · 06/06/2007 18:04
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