Not sure about chosen Nursery!

[Jo6366]

Hi
Just to set the picture, I used to work in a Nursery (Day Nursery), started when DS was 21mths so he came to the same Nursery with me. I had DS2 in December so went on Maternity leave from Oct but chose not to go back at the end. DS is still at the Nursery and has just moved up into the 3-5 room. Its great because I know all the staff, know its a great Nursery and DS has some friends there, plus they are aware that he does need a firm approach sometimes and although I often go in to them telling me things he's done, pushing, shoving etc they do see his good side and the fact that a lot of the problems stem from him racing around everywhere and not thinking before he crashes headlong into the other children (I'm not making excuses for him, I know he is a handful) Last summer we moved an hour round trip away from the nursery and although DS is doing 1 and half days there (3 funded sessions) I felt he should also get to know some of the children in the village he'll be going to school with which has a Nursery attatched (we live on the same road as the school/Nursery so ideal!) From the start I don't think the Nursery teacher was too keen that DS was doing split centres and only going 2 afternoons a week (they don't do morning seesions-a real pain!) Kai has only been for 2 afternoons (last week) and a 1 hour trial before that and I'm already unsure whether I want him staying at this nursery as i'm really not keen on the teacher! I've just dropped him off and bearing in mind I know Kai is a very active strong willed child (I sometimes wonder whether he is slightly hyperactive) but we had no feedback on how he got on when i picked him up last week so i asked when i just dropped him off today only for the teacher to reply - "ok but he can't stick to any of the rules, I was going to see how he got on this week and then have a word with you, this long break between sessions isn't good as he doesn't get used to the rules and then hes got to learn 2 sets of rules aswell" Well, wasn't that a nice way of saying how he's doing!!!? Worst thing is she's the SEN coordinator in the school so you think she's be a bit slower to judge a child!? Thing is he's been at the other Nursery over 18mths and still has triouble with rules, its not down to familiarity of the routine, that just him!! Any advice or anyone experiencing the same thing? He'll be in this class for 2 yrs as we're in Scotland so he won't start school until term after his 5th Birthday (another reason why i didn't want 5 sessions in smae place, as he gets bored easily!!)
PLEASE HELP!!
Thanks
Jo

[Bramshott]

I hate this kind of thing - nurseries being sniffy about you organising things to fit in with your life rather than theirs! Last year DD went 3 days a week to a day nursery (while I worked), and then 2 mornings to the local pre-school, one of the reasons being to meet friends she'll go to school with. I lost track of the number of comments I got about "so long between sessions"; "they probably do things differently at her other nursery"; "of course she can't do that because she's only in two mornings" etc. Of course it would be easier for them if all the children were in 5 days a week, but we have lives to lead too!

Sorry, not sure if that rant is any use. The teachers at the pre-school have changed this year and all is much better for us. I just took the attitude that I would just smile whenever I got any of these comments, as I knew the reasons for what we were doing, and thought it was the best way to make things work for us.

Hang in there!

[Jo6366]

Thanks I totally agree! One of the other reasons hes still going to his 'old' nursery is because all my friends live around there and as I've just been diagnosed with depression and as one of the contributory factors was feeling isolated where we now live, its been a real help to be able to keep him going and then go meet friends and have a bit of me time!
Jo

[lulu2]

I get this with my dd's nursery cos she only goes one day a week. if i had a pound for everytime one of the staff had said "well she does only come 1 day a week". she has just gone into pre-school and it's still being said - i actually said once in reply to the manager "well you pay for her to come more sessions then"
we get the vouchers starting January and i am going to move her to a different pre school for more sessions.