Ds refusing to talk /engage at pre school

[SwellyBelly]

Ds is a very chatting at home, with friends and even strangers, but when he gets to school he completely clams up. teachers have been trying for 1.5 years, but with no success. They say now need to stay behind a year, because he lacks the social and emotional maturity to progress through school, which I of course am completely offended by.

He is learning stuff, but he just doesn't show it at school, only at home. He knows he has to show that he can do a few simple things at school which he can do the things any sleep.but when he gets there, he almost intentionally obstructively refuses to do so. Seems it's not the teacher because he's like that with all the teachers at that school. Don't want to turn into the tiger mum, but just can't work out how to get him to open his bloody mouth at school! Ideas?

[BackforGood]

Am a bit confused as to how they could make him be kept back a year - surely he will start school with all his peers ?

[Littlefish]

Are you in the UK? Have you heard of selective/elective mutism? Have a google and see if it sounds like your ds. If it does, then it would be worth referring your ds to the speech and language service so that his pre-school can be supported to help them develop some appropriate strategies.

If you are in England it is almost inconceivable that your ds would be held back a year because of the reasons you've given.