Hi all
I hope this doesn't just turn into a rant, but I fear it may do...
My DS was born at 27 weeks and is now 15months (12 corrected). He has been home from hospital for almost a year and is the most wonderful, lovely, scrumptious little son I could wish for. He is still small (2nd centile), but seems to be fine in all other respects and is meeting his corrected age milestones.
My DH and I feel so lucky to have him, considering his dramatic arrival in the world and even though it was only last year, it feels like a long time since he was born. I had counselling while he was in hospital which really helped and I genuinely feel at peace with everything that happened, although looking at photos of him when he was very little still upset me and I jump at any kind of alarm, which must be a hangover from the sats machines.
My issue is really other people's reactions to me and my son. We go to quite a few baby groups and people there ask me about his birth, time in hospital, whether he will have learning difficulties so often and I hate talking about it. Luckily I have a really nice group of friends with babies the same age, but if I didn't, I would be really put off going to any groups. I live in quite a small area and I feel like I am known as the woman with the premature baby.
This morning, a woman from the library at a group I was at insisted on giving me a book pack for children with special needs because DS was premature. Now if he did have additional needs, or if he does in the future, I will explain that he does and hopefully get him all the support he needs. But I feel really irritated by people just assuming that there will be something 'wrong' with him when he is just a small boy trying to get on with his life after a difficult start, or that I must be a deranged mother to think that I can just get on with my life or treat him like any other baby.
As anyone who has had a very premature or I'll baby will know, it is a hellish time that you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy and you couldn't even begin to explain it to someone who hasn't experienced it. I'm not in denial - I just want to move on with my life for the sake of my family and myself!
Sorry - very ranty!
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NewToAllThis11 · 26/06/2014 14:57
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