Is this normal?
Ds2 was born at 36 weeks and 6days in 2012 after I had serious complications. I had an elective caesarean but it was traumatic as I knew I might need a hysterectomy or could suffer a severe bleed (I'd had three previous cs and had accreta after having had it in my second pregnancy too)
Ds2 was very unwell, had to go straight to nicu as he had an infection and breathing problems. He was there for a week.
During that time I was so upset. Upset because I was scared, upset because I was worried about him having his tube feeds topped up with formula (other dcs had milk allergy and it worried me he may too but the nurse said to me "don't be silly we will give him BABY milk not cows milk")
On day four I was allowed to hold ds and try to bf him, he wouldn't feed but the next time I held him I tried again but the nurse snapped at me to "put them away" as there was a dad sitting nearby with his baby and she didn't think it was appropriate, she made me feel so upset.
Every day we got there early but then had to leave at 10 am till about 1 pm till drs had finished their rounds and I would just sit and wait or walk round the hospital in tears.
Also on the day I was discharged my DM decided that the other dcs had to go home with us which made getting to and from hosp a nightmare due to childcare etc. she didn't realise that dh and I both wanted to be with ds2 she just said why should we be sitting around while she looked after other dcs.
I don't know why it today I ant stop thinking about what a horrible experience it was. Ds is fine now but I feel like it was yesterday and I don't know why.
Is this normal?
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Edenviolet · 22/02/2014 21:20
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