I got pregnant almost on the first go too.. and think that means it is a little more of a shock. I have been through all sorts of phases of fear etc. but think that is really just adjusting to the seriousness of how life will change and the new responsibilities. If you are the worrying type I don't know how you could avoid it! But... now at 20 weeks... and having still got dreadful ms and now probably spd... I am incredibly excited by it all and actually feel it might be the best thing I have ever done...

Thanks glasgowlass - will make an appointment today!

Hi FlowerBee

Firstly, congratulations on being pregnant!

Secondly, the way you are feeling is perfectly natural! Its your mothering instinct kicking in and to be honest the blardy hormones are a lot to do with it. You will cope fine! Being pregnant for the first time is scary but the body is a wonderful machine designed to deal with it.

1. Yes the responsibility will last a lifetime, but the overwhelming love you will feel for your little one will be immense, that little human being at the end, came from you and your DH!

2. Labour is painful, more for some than others, pain relief is available and you will learn all about your options. You will not be allowed to suffer and you may even have a very quick labour! (mine was 8 hours, G&A for a very short time and no cuts or grazes, yes I was lucky but you may be too!)

3. Yes your body will change but think of what an amazing thing it has done! Work at it, I used moisturiser on my bump daily, pelvic floor exercises are vital! I have a few wee stretch marks(now fading) and didnt require any stitches. I see my stretch marks now and look at them with a sense of pride!

4. You may not get MS, you may get it. Its one of those things that not everyone suffers with. Pregnancy does bring a whole list of "delightful" wee symptoms, but keep telling yourself its only for 40 weeks, 42 maximum. The end result is worth everything and so much more!

5. Being a mother is the coolest thing in the world! I have more friends now than before and still get nights out etc so being a mother does not tie you to the home, yes you will change, you will be more responsible but you will also enjoy your time "off" more!

FWIW we tried and failed for 8 years TTC our DS and when I fell pregnant after resigning myself to the fact it just was not going to happen, I felt exactly the same as you. I now miss being pregnant, I loved it! I miss him kicking me and just how wonderful it felt to have this wee person, growing, developing and thriving in me. However, now I get to watch him change every day, develop his own personality and I am so unbelievably proud of all his wee achievements.

So, try to relax, not worry, let your body do its amazing job and really really enjoy your pregnancy because it really does go so fast (until the last few weeks then it drags-sorry) and the best of luck to you!

Violet Congratulations on your pregnancy! You must be overjoyed! It will do no harm to go see your GP but they will prob ask you to make appt with a midwife attached to your surgery but it is good to have it documented in your notes that you are pregnant. Good luck!

Hey everyone!

I'm so happy to have stumbled across this thread. We've been trying since January, did a test last night (Clear Blue Digital) and again this morning and got a BFP. Says I'm Pregnant 2-3 weeks! Mix of emotions - happy, terrified, relieved, scared, ecstatic, worried...trying not to get too excited because I know it's very early days so spending the morning typing lots of random queries into Google and scanning the Mumsnet boards for advice.

Seems like next step is to make an appointment with my GP - should I do this straight away, or wait for another week to pass?

hi congratulations!
I'm going through exactly the same thing except my wasn't planned. We moved into our lovely house only 9 months ago and it isn't quite furnished yet. When our little suprise cam along (damn tequila in mexico) When i did the test with DH his first comment was 'i'll never be able to have my games room now'.
I'm pretty terrified about it all myself but am unable to say anything as i have to stay constantly positive in case he freaks out even more.
It's great to get on here and vent. Mumsnet is fantastic!

I can honestly say that I was on such a high that it really didn't hurt (gas & air was the business, but I was very lucky cos it really worked for me! ).

Again, I was lucky in that I didn't have any morning sickness, and felt really really well throughout.

No two experiences are the same - I would say you should both read the mumsnet book on pregnancy (mumsnetonpregnancy)...easy to dip in & out of, very very good for new mums & dads to be cos there are no right or wrongs, covers every bit of pregnancy. They also have follow on books on babies as well.

There are so many books on the market now that it's very easy to get overwhelmed.

I feel absolutely hideous in pregnancy -tired, sick, just want to keel over really. But it's my second so I know it's all worth it in the end! Worst case scenario, you feel shit for 9 months (more likely 3), have a couple of days of awful birth pains but then you get years and years of joy, love and pride in your amazing child in return.

Have to say, while labour was easily the worst pain I've ever experienced, you do get through - and afterwards it seems completely irrelevant. Just look at how many people choose to go through it over and over!

I got PG almost the minute I got my IUD out - which was a bit of a shock. Baby isn't due until January so I can only give advice on pregnancy - it doesn't necessarily mean a ghastly 9 months.
I have been sick 3 times - twice due to not eating for over 24 hours (couldn't face eating in the early days but no nausea), and the other time due to a rogue bit of string on a runner bean (very strong gag reflex at the moment !)
Otherwise I have been one of those incredibly lucky women who hasn't put on weight (although at a size 18 prepreggers this is a massive relief), no stretch marks yet and not one day off sick. I have felt remarkably well and energetic from about 10 weeks so it doesn't necessarily mean that you'll feel ghastly just because you're PG.

However, I did have days in the first trimester where I was so tired the pavement looked increasingly attractive. And no doubt I will have a hideous birth to make up for the easy pregnancy

I guess it can be a bit overwhelming when it happens right away!
But all is well, moms are only moderatley uncool these days, they get to try all the baby snacks and don't have to wash their hair when they don't feel like it. You'll eventually forget about not having a virginal vagina as your brain will suffer hormonal damage and you are much too tired to care anyway. Labour will give you one of the best stories ever to tell and morning sickness will put petty little matters like the flu in perspective. And on top the little ones will put more love in your life than you ever knew was out there, and you'll never be lonely again. Join the club!

I'm sure every single person felt exactly like this even if only for a fleeting second, if they're honest! Echo what everyone else has said - becoming a mum has been the most magical thing i've ever done in my life!
But you're allowed several more wtf have I done moments!!! i had some with my head against cold floor tiles after puking, and the biggest scary one was immediately after bringing ds home and going, oh my god, they let me bring a child home! what do we do now?
Your partner will relax into it, i think men get more excited when they see a scan and your bump starts growing/ kicking - it's all a bit abstract until then really isn't it