Hi everyone
I don't have kids and really needed some advice from people who DO have kids. I'm 24 and my partner is 26. We've been together for just over 2 years, we're unmarried and we're trying to suss out the right time to start trying to get pregnant.
We've just moved into a rented 2 bedroom place. I've got a good job which I like and have been there for 6 months. My partner has been at his current job for a month and is planning to stay long term.
Recently- okay for the past 10 months or so- we've talked every single day about when to start a family. I've watched TV shows, looked online for info, drawn up a rough financial plan- you name it. I've paid close attention to pregnant female friends, watched people with little kids when I'm out and about. All that stuff.
Ive tried really hard to put myself off of this idea or make it less appealing but the best I've done is got bored of daydreaming! I know that the money is a major worry for me even though I'm on an okay wage. And I know as well that I could be earning £45k a year and it still wouldn't seem enough to have a baby on.
I've prepared myself for the idea that once we start ttc there might be problems which take years to sort out, or we might conceive instantly and have a baby with us by next October.
I just ran out of my prescription for the contraceptive pill last week and am considering just staying off of it to see what happens. But I'm still hesitating, still feeling scared by what might happen as well as hopeful.
My family all live 250 miles away and my partner has grandparents nearby but thats about it. We are a bit isolated and I've tried to think this through- does being pregnant lead you to opportunities to make friends with other pregnant women?
I guess what I need now is someone who will be honest- we've done all this mental planning for a child- how do know if the time is right?
What if I can't return to my job after maternity leave?
What if my family are unsupportive?
Argh!! So many questions!
Can somebody please help, share your experiences of pre-pregnancy and the first few months with me- how many of you out there planned your first child, how many did it just happen? How did you break the news to everyone? How did you cope with a whole new little life? etc etc
Hope to hear from you all soon, sorry it's a long post I just had to get all this out of my head.
Take care everybody thanks for your help
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How do I know if the time is right to try to get pregnant?
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loopylou2 · 09/12/2008 10:27
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