Hi
I had ds 1 after awful induction. He was 11 days late, I had the pessary, the drip it was awful. I had G & A, then pethadine which made me very sick then epidural. After 27 hours ds 1 was distressed and he was delivered by ventouse. I had an episiotomy but tore anyway. I am 5" 2, size 8 and ds 1 was 9lb 1oz. I was traumatised and in shock after the birth.
I then had terrible pnd where I saw a psychologist for a year.
Ds 2 was spontaneous labour and I knew he was a big baby as I'd had growth scans as he was always at least 3-4 weeks ahead of dates. I was terrified of giving birth but went into labour keen to not be induced. I had another epidural which wore off down 1 side so I had G & A also. They knew he was stuck at 10pm yet I was asked to push. I had the most amazing pressure in my bottom which was unrelenting. A couple of hours later I asked for help as I was in agony and he wasn't coming down the birth canal. ( He wasn?t delivered till 2.24am) They said they could use forceps, I was worried about tissue damage but the obs said it would be okay. I had a spinal in theatre (as emer c-section would take place if forceps didn't work) Dh was ashen as I disappeared behind the theatre doors (he was able to join later) Our son was born after 3 tugs where I sustained a 3rd degree tear with no episiotomy. He was 9lb 15 1/2 oz. His shoulder were enormous hence he was stuck! I have had complications from the tear and still have severe pain when I need to empty my bowels.
I am prgt with dc 3 and are considering a c-section as I am worried about re-opening the tear (it will be 21 months between births) I am worried about having another birth that 'goes wrong'. I have lost all confidence in my body to deliver babies and just want a more calmer, plannable birth. I have been told by my Dr that 3rd baby's are bigger which worries me. I do understand the risks involved from a c-section and have had 2 births so def not too posh to push. A section would place difficulties for my 2 boys I already have.
I am so confused as to what to do. I can't guarantee am instrumental free 3rd birth and are wanting a major operation instead which seems crazy. I feel my body grows baby's that are too big for me to deliver -opposite to what the consultant told me with ds 2 'You can deliver a 12lb baby Mrs babyno3!!'
I feel I've lost trust in the professionals as I expressed concern about ds 2 being a big baby, I didn?t like forceps and expressed this but was told it would be fine yet it turned out exactly how I though it would be.
Any thought/opinions gratefully received?
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C-section for no 3 or go for another 'natural' delivery. Your advice needed please. (anyone with previous 3rd degree tears really wlecome!)
babyno3 · 26/11/2008 21:12
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