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Attention Pregnant Mommas with at least 1 DC already!

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TreadmillMom · 27/07/2008 00:57

Ever heard of conefinement? In the olden days, pregnant women I belive used to retreat away from day to day life in the weeks running up to the birth of thier child, whether cultral or natures calling I'm feeling that urge!
I'm 32 weeks with DC3 and every opportunity I get to steal myself away from family life I'm off like a shot, upstairs in bed watching my kinda TV.
I feel like I just can't be arsed to do anything, cook, clean, shop, move at all to be fair, I just wanna be alone in silence.
The kids, through no fault of their own are bugging me with constant requests to do this, get that, fighting, tantrums, crying and now the 6 week holidays have started I'm so dreading it.
Anyone else ever felt like this late in pregnancy?

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wrinklytum · 27/07/2008 01:06

I only have 2 and haven't a cat in hells hance of having any more but rememer craving quiet and peace when heavily pg with no 2.

How old are your dcs?Do you have family nearbywho canhelp?

I think confinement sounds like a lovekly idea.When my mum had me you weere kept in hospital for at leasta week.

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Ate · 27/07/2008 01:10

Late pregnancy?

On my own with three (6yrs, 3yrs and 6 months) and one on the way, I feel like this quite often TBH. When the rare chance does arise, I grab it with both hands! It makes for a marginally more sane and kind form of mothering if I can snatch the odd quiet moment to catch my breath and think my very own thoughts occasionally

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TreadmillMom · 27/07/2008 01:11

Nope, no relatives nearby at all, all alone, husband starting new job new week with a long commute so he'll have to put in 110% initially, no running home to me so I can put my feet up.
I'm currently unemployed DS2 2.5yrs attends a private nursery 1 day a week and I'm putting DS1 5yrs into a holiday club for the same day so at least I can have 1 day in the middle of the week to myself.
I want need more!

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wrinklytum · 27/07/2008 01:13

Blimey,Ate.....you deserve a medal-3 already,one just 6 months and another on the way!!!!!!!! AND a single mum !!!!

< FAINTS >

Respect!!!!

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wrinklytum · 27/07/2008 01:15

Treadmill Mom,you are not unemployed you are a hadworking mum,huge job in itself_

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Ate · 27/07/2008 01:23

WT, I very nearly fainted too (on more than one occasion over the last 6 months or so!)

TreadmillMom, I agree wholeheartedly with WT, you are far from unemployed. There is no more demanding a job than motherhood IMO

Enjoy your days off, creating that space for yourself is a great and much deserved move! As for that kind of time, I think we all quite often want more, you aren't alone.

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hannah001 · 27/07/2008 07:32

just the one DD and currently 30 wks pregnant with twins. No family nearby and husband with a very demanding job. I've started mat leave early as can't cope with work anymore. Fortunately DD is 6 and sort of understands when I tell her I need to lie down - though she does have moment of remarkable lack of compassion. The thought of 6 weeks of summer holiday is making me despair a bit too. So far we've spent it at the playpark - with me collapsed on a icnic planket while she runs around like a mad thing.

You're not alone

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hannah001 · 27/07/2008 07:33

(picnic blanket)

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fledtoscotland · 27/07/2008 20:05

confinement sounds like bliss! i start mat leave next week (35weeks) and am looking forward to the two days a week that DS is in nursery.... not to put up my feet but to get on top of the washing/ironing/housework etc etc that i never seem to get round to with my little helper.

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whomovedmychocolate · 27/07/2008 20:12

LOL I have a ten day old and 21 month old. That'd be lovely.

Except your fecking MiL would turn up and make it a festival or horrors!

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expatinscotland · 27/07/2008 20:13

I have two daughters, ages 5 and 2.5. The 5-year-old has dyspraxia.

Am 26 weeks pregnant with DS and DH works full-time, albeit in shifts so he's home often enough during the day.

But I would LOVE a 'confinement'!

No family at all nearby or anyone else to help.

I'm lovin' this confinement idea.

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WombFor1More · 27/07/2008 21:48

Ooooh confinement sounds like my idea of heaven right now

Currently 31wks preg, ds 6, ds 4, dd 1 and a completly hectic life! Dp works all hours and a break would be sooo nice but very unlikely. Makes you wonder why we keep doing this

But no, you are most definately not alone in feeling like this. I can't stand being surrounded by noise or mess atm and in my house both those things are hard to avoid!

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accessorizequeen · 01/08/2008 19:51

I remember it being pretty exhausting when ds1 was nearly 3 and I was due with ds2, but now they're 4.7 and 19 mo and I'm 31 wks with twins, that pales into insignificance. Luckily both of them at nursery 2 days as I have been on sick leave for a month & starting mat leave next week.

Hannah, you should come join us on the anyone else pg with twins thread! We must be due just about same week!

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FoghornLeghorn · 01/08/2008 19:54

I'm currently 39 weeks with DC3. DD1 is 4 and has come down with chicken pox today and DD2 is 21 months and extremely energetic.

In answer to your Q. yes I do feel the same, very often but very rarely get the chance to retreat

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pgwithnumber3 · 01/08/2008 22:20

Am dreading the later stages of this pregnancy as DD2 will probably be starting to leg it off at any given opportunity! (she will be 17 months when baby due).

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accessorizequeen · 01/08/2008 23:05

Good grief, foghorn, could it get any worse for you! You must be praying for labour to start so you can rest in hospital afterwards!

number3, ds2's 19 months now, at no point has he shown signs of legging it, he just doesn't seem the type whereas ds1 constantly did it once he walked. Just personality I think, I'm very thankful that he's the laid back type!

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FoghornLeghorn · 02/08/2008 06:54

Yes AQ, I had been desperate to go into labour and tying all the old wives tales but now I could do with the baby staying putt for a while as I don't know what'll happen if the baby comes and someone is still contagious. DD2 will most probably come down with at some point so I'm guessing we've still got a while before we are germ free

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accessorizequeen · 02/08/2008 13:20

Could be v.awkward, couldn't it although dd2 might not catch it and even if she did they don't get it too badly at that age. Poor you!

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