Pregnant again after miscarriage - all much more scary this time

[heavenlylily]

I had a miscarriage at approx 8 weeks in March and am now pg again (only 2 weeks pg). Things seem less exciting this time as know same could happen again, whereas last time I never contemplated mc as already had healthy 16 mnth old dd. Now every ache worries me. Been getting low period pain type ache and I can't remember whether I had this or not with dd this early. Could this just be implantation pain? Just after reassurance!

[Playingthe9monthwait]

Sorry to hear about your mc. I'm really not an expert as I have never been pg before but I just got a strong BFP this morning (twice) and I have had low level period pains all week which I take it are perfectly normal, I know loads of people on our ttc thread got this as well around the time of their BFP. I certainly hope so!

Oh and I am assuming you are more than 2 weeks pg as you take it from the 1st day of your last AF, so by the time you get a BFP you are 4-5 weeks pg!

[2boysnamedR]

Congratulations on your pregnancy and sorry for previous MC. I had pretty bad period pains in first few weeks of both my pregnancy?s and midwife said it was normal and just your womb limbering up for the changes ahead. I am sure it?s fine. Can you ring a midwife or see your doctor so they can tell you it?s a common thing? Might put your mind more at rest. Better to go and put your mind at rest than worrying as I remember it lasting for weeks.

[tm1978]

Hey
Just wanted to let you know, you are not alone. I miscarried 10 weeks ago and am now 7+3. I only found out last week and I was shocked. I have literally been on knicker watch since I found out. I bled a few weeks back leading me to believe I was having my first period since the ERPC, but now I want to know why I bled, its seemed like a normal period. I've got a scan next week but I can't even imagine hearing good news. Your right though, there is no excitment in being pregnant. I wish I could fast forward to February and have a healthy baby in my arms. I'm also suffering period pains, they are awful, I don't get period pains like this when I'm pregnant. A hot water bottle definitely helps! My husband and mum assured me I felt this with my son, I really can't remember though (he's 3).
Good luck on a happy health pregnancy!!!
Tracey

[MrsMattie]

Congrats on your pregnancy. I totally sympathise with your worries. I have a 3 yr old son, had a miscarriage in October and am now 19 weeks pregnant. I also worry about every little niggle, although now I am well into the second trimester I am feeling a little more relaxed abouit things (I was a nervous wreck during the first 12 weeks!). No advice except to say that I can understand your fears, and you will start to feel a little less anxious as your pregnancy progresses, especially after your scans xx

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

{{{hugs}}}

Sorry, but MC ruins pregnancy. You will feel anxious all the way through, in peaks and troughs, be assured, it's normal! Don't hesitate to go to the GP/midwife/hospital if you are worried. xxx

[mrsboogie]

Hi. I totally sympathise with you as the same thing happened to me. I had a missed m/c which I hadn't realised could happen until it did. I have to be honest and say that it has spoiled this pregnancy to a certain extent as I couldn't get out of my head the thought that somethng would go wrong again.

However, the best thing to do is take it in stages. Once you see a heartbeat on a scan the chances of miscarrying decrease markedly - I went for an early private scan to get some reassurance. They also decrease again once you get past the 12 week mark. You also have to think that if its meant to be it will be and theres nothing you can do to change the outcome so try to contain your worrying as much as you can - easier said than done I know.

[duvetheaven]

Sorry to hear about your mc. Could well be implantation. Yes, mc does have a habit of taking the 'innocence' out of pregnancy. I had 2 mc's in a row so getting pregnant third time was a day by day knicker watch!!! Am now 31 weeks so sometimes it can just be bad luck. Yes, a heartbeat would be a great milestone as will the 12 week mark. The 30 week mark was good for me as I realiesed the baby has a chance of surviving if born now. Have a look at the other supportive threads on mc.Take care x

[mamabea]

could you ask your EPDU for early scans?
I had 2 miscarriages in betwen my DD's and the unit at local hosp were fab- scanned at 6 weeks / 8/ 10 etc until 20!!!

it helped me relinquish some of the anxiety.

all the best
xx

[waitinggirl]

poor poor you. we had 2 m/cs in a row last year - the second a mmc. we are now 15 weeks pregnant and counting each day which passes. please please be kind to yourself.

i lost my mind completely - my boobs were enormous and at about 6 weeks (date of first m/c and quite possibly 2nd) they deflated - i had a complete meltdown. but i spoke to a friend of a friend who had had a horrific time with m/c and she counselled me through it. she gave me some amazing advice:

first of all, what will be will be - there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. please also realise each pregnancy is different - you can't look for signs and one person's period pains will be quite different to another's. ditto sickness or achy boobs or whatever - it will change from person to person and pregnancy to pregnancy.

if you can, go for an early scan - but not too early - wait until about 8 weeks. with our mmc we went too early and so had to keep coming back every week to see if it had grown and it was utterly devastating each time to have a glimmer of hope which got steadily more crushed. if you can afford it, go for an early scan at a private clinic - i went to the london fertility centre in harley st - it's about £100 and the best money spent - you pay for peace of mind. if it is good news, you see the heartbeat on the best equipment, and if bad news - they are paid to spend time being nice to you about it, not to rush you out, or put you in a stuffy old room with a box of tissues and a miscarriage association leaflet.

and this might make you want to punch me (i wanted to punch everyone who said it to me, but it is true): you got pregnant - this is amazing, and, if it doesn't happen this time, it means it will happen for you at some point soon. it is so so common, and people don't talk about it - it has become my mission to talk about it, so it stops being a taboo.

mc is very very hard, and no one and nothing will make you feel better until you have a perfect baby in your arms (am waiting until december for ours, touch wood), but try to breathe, remember what will be will be, and do what you can to make yourself feel better.

good luck
x

[pud1]

congtrats.. just wanted to add to the rest of the replies. my dd is 5 months old. i had 2 previous mc and can remember that feeling of dread. i was near hysterics at my scan. i felt it all come back being in the same room were it all went so wrong twice before. all i can say from my experiance is that it does get a little easier as the pregnancy progresses.

[mrsboogie]

Well said waitinggirl, all very true.