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Could I be pregnant???

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jenniferq · 28/03/2008 13:20

I know these have been done to death, and ultimately I should just do a test, but I want to wait a few days and see what happens, but in the meantime wondered if I could ask lovely Mn-ers for their wise thoughts.
(I am a regular, but not a prolific poster, but have name changed because I have RL friedns on here!).
I have an 8.5 month DD. I am still breastfeeding twice a day - morning and evening. I reduced to these feeds from exclusive breastfeeding when she hit 6 months, in January, and since then have had two AFs. One in January, then one 30 days later in February (my cycle used to be 28 days, but perhaps not unusual for it to change after pregnancy). 30 days from the previous AF was yesterday, so I fully expected my AF to arrive. SORRY FOR TMI COMING UP. yesterday morning, there was a small amount of brown blood. put in a tampon and went about my business, thinking AF was here. then went to change later in teh day and basically absolutely no fresh blood and only very small amount of brown blood. Didnt use another tampon and since then, nothing.
Now, DH and I did BD 14 days ago today, so I guess that was a day after I was ovulating (assuming ov 14 days before AF arrives). We arent specifically TTC, but nor are we using protection. When trying to conceive DD we had 7 months of trying after a mc that became very consuming and stressful so feel like we would like, as much as possible, to try and just see how things go.
So, could it be that my cycles are still screwed up from breastfeeding, and that was a minute AF (it was after all the day it was due).
I think if I am honest, the real reason I dont want to test yet is because before I conceived DD, as I said, I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. It started exactly like this, with a small bit of old blood, followed 24 hours later by proper bleeding, then ultimately a mc. I guess I feel that if I was pg, and this was the start of another mc, I would rather not really know that (it would only after all be at 4 weeks so wouldnt be more than a period I wouldnt have thought) and would rather put it down to my AF. perhaps that sounds a bit crazy, I just feel I would rather never have known, rather than find out I am pg, get my head round it, get v excited and then worry constantly about what that bit of spotting was (and I AM a worrier).
but then maybe that was just my AF anyway?
What a long waffly post. Does anyone have the inclination to post any thoughts on what might be going on??

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suzywong · 28/03/2008 13:24

if you have let a boy put his winky in your front bottom, then YES you could be PG

get a test and give yourself a break

good luck

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nickytwotimes · 28/03/2008 13:29

Sometime smy AF starts and stops a bit - much like you have described, tbh. I'd do a test though just to put your mind at rest. My cousin get pg whilst bfing - her hv told her it was safe! Would it be a disaster for you to be pg?

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jenniferq · 28/03/2008 13:38

No, not a disaster at all. It wouldnt be 'planned' and it would take a bit of getting my head round, but ultimately I would be extremely grateful! I think I will sit it out a ocuple of days and then do a test. Thats the thing, I feel I dont 'know' my body right now as it is adapting to various hormonal changes, restarting cycles etc. Also, I dont feel at all pregnant, both times last time, I definitely did - sore boobs, exhausted etc.

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yorkshirepudding · 28/03/2008 13:39

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nickytwotimes · 28/03/2008 13:40

It could well be your cycle all over the place as you say. Takes a while. Glad it wouldn't be a disaster if you were pg!

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nickytwotimes · 28/03/2008 13:40

yes, suzywong is always very witty!

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jenniferq · 28/03/2008 13:47

no, its just the mc bit that scares the life out of me (as it does everyone I know), but ended up with depression last time (though there were other factors) - and had quite a stressful pregnancy as a result.
We'll see, I am just going to try and be patient! As I say, I just want to avoid tesing and finding out a positive if it is not going to last - I genuinely would rather not know.

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yorkshirepudding · 28/03/2008 13:49

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jenniferq · 28/03/2008 13:57

Thanks yorkshirepudding, thats OK.

I do realise its just a boring topic for a lot of people, only really seeing if people had advice on messed up cycles etc, or experience of what happened to them during/after breastfeeding. Because I dont want to test yet for my own reasons.

Perhaps i should have given a bit more thought to my title