People keep telling me I am tiny!

[finallypregnant]

Usually, I am a size 16. Very, very ill in the early days so I lost a bit of weight so probably now back at what I was (27 weeks). Went to get a pair of maternity trousers yesterday and the shop assistant said my god you are tiny - are you sure you've got your dates right!

Promptly followed by a trip to the hairdresser who said the same and then out for dinner with friends last night who also expressed concern.

I wasn't bothered until yesterday but now a tad worried. Due at midwide for 28 week appointment at the end of the week so I presume she will be able to tell if she thinks I am too small? I can still get into my normal jeans and have not bought any maternity tops either.

[LadyOfWaffle]

When I was pregnant with DS I was a 14/16 and never bought maternity clothes, I think my bump was growing inwards aswell When I went in for monitoring once about 36 weeks one MW asked if it was because my bump was so small (before she read my notes), but all my scans showed DS as growing fine. When I was overdue I still didn't have a massive bump. I think people just carry differently, don't worry about it

[LadyOfWaffle]

I am 19 weeks now and still in all the same clothes aswell.

[Littlefish]

I didn't ever buy any maternity clothes. I just changed shape within my normal size if you see what I mean. I also didn't show until I was about 7 months pregnant.

I'm sure it will be fine - people are all different.

[finallypregnant]

Thank you. Was doing fine until people started being nosey!

[ILikeToMoveItMoveIt]

I'm sure you are both fine.

With DS1 I could still fit into my jeans at 25 weeks. I put this down to losing weight with horrendous ms in the early days.

Enjoy it while it lasts, as no doubt in a few months time some old trout will be more than happy to tell you that your bump is huuuuggggeeee and that you're getting too big

[sweetkitty]

People ALWAYS like to comment on the size of pregnant women's bumps, I'm always getting told I am "neat" I'm 23+3 today and still can get into my size 8 jeans (not for much longer though). At a scan a few weeks ago baby was measuring as she should and that's all that matters.

[maxbear]

Everyone has always got something to say about the size of your bump. If your midwife is happy then you don't need to worry. Bumps can look tiny but have a good size baby in them and vice versa. With my second my manager at work would tell me how huge I was every week, then suddenly on my last day she said that I was not that big really.

[poppy34]

Absolutely if everythign is going along ok per your midwife that is most important. Everyone is different. just look at the posts here.

Annoys me intensely -the you're big/you're small chat when you're pregnant -it is intrusive and to be honest is only like to worry or offend. I don't see what it is about expecting that means normal rules of politeness don't apply.

and I do know how worrying it is if they say stuff- its not like you're not paranoid enough when you're pregnant

[PortAndLemon]

It's a well-known fact that there are no normal-sized pregnant women. All pregnant women are either "You're huge are you sure it's not twins?" or "You're tiny is everything OK?". Sometimes both in the same day from different people.

I think everyone must carry round some mental model of exactly what size you ought to be, and unless you are that exact size to within a couple of millimetres you must be some sort of sideshow freak.

My midwife is quite frank about the fact that she can't judge what size the baby is when I'm standing up -- I need to lie down and she has to have a good prod to get a feel for whether the baby is large or small for dates. So how random strangers with no relevant training are drawing profound conclusions based on a casual glance I don't know (unless you are lying supine and they are palpating your abdomen, in which case your social life is waaaaaaaaaaaaay more exciting than mine...).

[orangehead]

Everyone carries different. I cant fit in my normal clothes from at about 6 weeks, and from about 25 weeks everyone was saying comments like 'anyday now' and when I corrected them they jaws dropped. My friend however still wore her normal jeans till the month before and just before she gave birth looked about how I looked at 10 weeks preg. The weight difference in our babies? Just a couple of ounces. We were both size 10 and neither of us put on too much weight. I wouldnt worry too much

[shelleylou]

With my ds i was tiny and had people asking me if i was sure i was pregnant, for most of it. Then went into corner shop
shoipkeeper - 'your really big when are you due'
me - 2 days ago
opps

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[spina]

everyone carries differantly. your trip to mw will help to reassure you i hope.

I've been told I'm huge and tiny in the same day many times during both pgs. half the time people think they're saying what you want to hear ie some think it's a compliment to say "You're HUGE.How are you going to get THAT out? or conversely "Gosh You're soooooo small" as if I'm (still) trying to suck my tummy in!
Just wait til your lovely bean arrives and then you get everyone commenting on their size as well as yours!

[beforesunrise]

better than being constantly asked if i am having twins...

seriously, i am sure you're fine- "size" means nothing as we all know :-)

xx MG

[shelleylou]

i did get really big at the end though,

[vicky11]

Yes it's very annoying!!! Oh arnt you small!!! I usually reply with "yes well at least I don't get stretch marks"!!! My midwife assures me I'm measuring correct for my dates too .I think I have a long body!!!

[vicky11]

Yes it's very annoying!!! Oh arnt you small!!! I usually reply with "yes well at least I don't get stretch marks"!!! My midwife assures me I'm measuring correct for my dates too .I think I have a long body!!!

[cmotdibbler]

My colleague could still do her coat up when a week overdue. Baby was 8lb something.

A friend of a friend developed her bump overnight at 8 months when the baby turned round..

[MadameCh0let]

I'm sure I was told that I was really small and that I was really huge on the same day.

[Alishanty]

When i was pg with my first I didn't tell work until I was 20 wks. Everyone kept saying I should have been bigger/fatter etc. I even had hurtful comments like 'Is everything ok? Is the baby growing properly?'. MW sent me for an extra scan at 30 wks as I was 'small for my dates'. When they did the scan baby was correct size and he was born a healthy 7lb 40z. I am quite a small person anyway so maybe that was why. Try not to worry. What you look like on the outside is not a reflection of how big the baby is.

[lollipopmother]

I've never thought twice at saying 'gosh you're getting big' to pregnant friends, I thought it was a nice thing to say, not mean, I hadn't realised it was offensive. I'm nearly 16 weeks gone and I can't wait for people to say I'm big but that's because I think it's a nice thing to say. Equally though, people that say you're small are possibly thinking that you're shitting bricks about passing a massive baby so they're purposefully playing it down to keep your spirits up iykwim.