Hi
I was just wondering if anyone had any top tips on what to do when SIL visits...
she and i have never got on very well (won't go into all the reasons why!) but never fallen out over anything. however this year her behaviour has been shocking. her (and OH's) dad died earlier in the year and left them some cash. she then chose to leave her husband and 4 yo son and move overseas to move in with a fella she had met a couple of weeks beforehand. MIL and OH were - and still are - distraught about this but still idolise her and OH is excited about her visit, though is aware that i'm not so keen... she has a history of PND and i do try to empathise with her (i have several friends with PND and/or D so know what it can be like) and her recent behaviour could be grief from her father passing, but she tries to be very emotionally manipulative, and everything is always about her. she has not tried to support MIL or OH at all in what is a very emotionally charged year for them.
baby is due 10 sept and she and MIL are coming to stay in a flat near us for 5 days 2 weeks later. i've no probs with MIL coming but SIL is already doing my head in (she doesn't want to come but MIL has asked her 100 times and is paying for her flight and wants her to see her son! so she has said ok.) so i've been trying to think of ways to make sure the visit goes smoothly - for everyone! OH may be back at work by then (though may keep a few days in reserve for their visit - though that's not quite the point of it but still...) or the baby might arrive that week! we have said NO ONE (inc my parents) can stay in the house for the first month.
my sister lives nearby so have asked her to come visit at the same time to 'dilute' SIL's impact. and i'm trying to think of things for us to do in the day time and evenings when OH is back from work which get us out of the house all together - like walks, dinner out - but i'm aware that some of this will be up in the air depending on how i'm feeling post birth, when the birth is, and how LO is!! also, to be honest i'm beginning to resent (yes already!) that i'm having to adapt my/our first few weeks with my/our first baby because of her and she won't be thinking of this at all and i'm worried that the stress of it will cause me some mental health issues. I'm also keen for this to not cause any arguements between OH and me as that won't achieve anything!
sorry this is so long! if anyone has some helpful comments or similar exerience on how to manage awkward relationships that would be wonderful!
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SIL issues... how to manage the visit... any top tips?
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frannie2013 · 21/08/2014 10:42
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