Can someone take a subjective look at this situation before I commit murder..?
OH works 5 sometimes 6 days a week. He has to be up at 5.30 and gets home about 5.15. He earns good money.
I am 31 weeks pregnant I too get up with him and then walk dogs, sort out my horse, do washing etc then go to work 8.5 hours not great money and hate my job but had to give up my work when I got pregnant as not safe. When I get home I go straight in the kitchen (he's on sofa) make dinner, sandwiches for next day do pots etc.
He watches endless series of junk tv shows on lovefilm. He knows I hate them. He sits on one sofa I sit on the other. He plays with the dogs/ fusses them but takes pretty little notice of me. Doesn't really want to talk unless pushed then will turn tv up if he's bored with the conversation. Doesn't take much interest in baby/ how I am etc..
If I complain ever about him doing nothing round the house he gets unpleasant saying he's at work longer than me and that all I do is moan and be a martr. It's my fault I do everything.. If I get on at him long enough he will do things very badly and in poor grace and it really annoys me so I end up doing it.
He's lost his tax disc and that's my fault apparently I've thrown it away! I apparently should have gone to the post office to get another as I don't start work till 9. We are going on holiday this weekend and I've left it till last minute he would have done it if he had known I hadn't bothered! I need to print the forms off/ org side the whole thing so he who finished at 3 today vs me at 5.30 can do it- he's left without it!
I'm really truely exhausted and have had a horrendous week at work. He has started going to bed at 8 - he's tired!! He then gets up at 3am and wakes me up, puts tv on and yea then he wants to talk/ be affectionate etc.. I'm aboslutley worn out. Last night I had a massive go he rolls over and goes back to sleep I'm awake again.
He has done bits around the house and the nursery apparently this out weighs anything I do.. He not however put the central heating in for the baby and lies on his arse every night while all the stuff for it is in the dining room.
I've had enough nothing gets through to the idiot everyone at work can't believe how much I'm doing and they don't know the half of it. I'm very hormonal at the moment and have been in tears on the way too and from work. They are trying not to pay me my smp im entitled too and my manager is being vile about mistakes I'm making but I can't help it at all :(
OH says it's my fault I don't stand up for myself it's a multi national not a building site I've complained to hr but that's not good enough I should tell them to get stuffed .. Not that's he's offering to pay all the bills if I do.. He's just never sympathetic to any situation I'm in ever hes always been a selfish pig but i really need some support and am getting nothing I have no family locally it's all his and my friends are 40 mins away I'm really really miserable.
Sorry for the long pointless rant just wanted to write it down ...!
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Elizabeth120914 · 11/07/2014 06:43
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