Hi everyone
Don't know if this is the best place to post this, just had to get some things off my chest!
I'm 28 weeks PG, unplanned but both OH and myself are over the moon!
I was hoping it would bring me closer to my parents, especially my mother who I seem to have a 'difficult' relationship with.
Now, I know I am hugely lucky to still have both parents, but the way my mum made me feel last night, I can certainly do without the added stress.
Her main issue is that we live in a rented property a 1-bedroom flat, which she feels is wholly inappropriate for a baby.
We're not currently looking to move as the cost of gaining 1 extra bedroom is huge. We live in London.
She was also implying that my OH should man up and provide for me & the baby ie buy us a house, quite with what I don't know.
We are getting married in July next year- booked & arranged before we knew about the baby. We are going ahead with it still.
I get the impression my mum thinks we should cancel it and buy a house instead- she's not come out & said this but her irritation is obvious.
Obviously I agree that buying a home is important, but equally, we want to get married & have planned to do so.
Finally, my younger twin siblings are now both married, kids & mortgage. It really hurt inside when she made direct comparisons between us (we have totally different situations!) & kept repeating how disappointed she is in me, how I need to grow up & stop acting like I know it all.
Then my dad waded in on the conversation & wouldn't let me off the phone until he'd said similar. I was very close to putting the phone down.
So I had a good cry after, then had a bowl of ice cream for dinner. Luckily OH was working late & got home once I was in bed.
By the way I'm 35, have a professional full time job, as does my OH.
I don't know if I have the energy to put into improving relations with my parents, I love them and I want them to be involved as much as possible. But I don't think they're doing my state of mind any good
Apologies for the enormous long post, I had to get it out as I've not spoken to anyone it
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Pregnancy a time to become closer to your mum? Sadly, not for me :-(
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amandine07 · 24/10/2013 14:13
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