Just a little rant really, in the beginning we were so so happy to find out I was finally pregnant after a long struggle. But slowly his happiness has seemed to turn to misery.
He is snappy, he says he doesn't feel happy inside and he doesn't know what is wrong. We have been together a long time and never had any problems but since I've become pregnant we fall out over the silliest of things and some days I just hate him , I know I shouldn't say this because when he is himself he is lovely, kind and full of fun.
I just can't put my finger on what is wrong, I'm thinking maybe he's slightly depressed but as soon as I mention he should go to the doctors he says he is fine!!
Does pregnancy do funny things to a man?? I know I should be hormonal but it seems to be the other way round, I'm so so happy and can't believe we finally have our miracle growing inside me but my fiance is just dampening my high spirits :( I worry if he's not coping with things now how will he be when baby arrives and I need lots of support xx
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What is wrong with my man, he should be so happy!!
blondebaby111 · 16/07/2013 12:45
My DH was similar, we argued loads because he just stopped talking at times and felt so distant, he was just really overwhelmed and worried about money/being a good parent/baby being healthy/me being healthy etc. it's such an emotive time for the men as much as the women. Try to take a night off from being the expectant parents and go out to dinner/the cinema it will remind him that even with a baby you're still a couple and hopefully relax him enough for you both to be able to express how you're feeling and not argue, perhaps then you can tell him you'd just like a little support during this time. Doing that really helped us anyway 
Congratulations on your pregnancy by the way! 
Pregnancy is huge for both parties, you are pg you can feel that, dream and hope. He just has abstracts. It isn't right but it is real. Many men desperate to be fathers are terrified when it happens and handle it badly. It doesn't make it ok but it is real. Honestly I would say you need to find a point when you are both calm and explain you understand his freak out but that it isn't ok and he needs to deal with it. Explain how it makes you feel and what you need from him. Yes it is sexist but so many men need direction at this stage. Congratulations on your pregnancy
My partner has reacted oddly too. He was more excited about the pregnancy than I was after trying for a year but after the initial excitement wore off he started to worry. Mainly that something would go wrong. I noticed he smelt slightly of cigarette smoke one day despite quitting over a year and a half ago. He finally admitted he had smoked a few due to the stress. 
I'm not impressed at all but don't feel like I can say much so I'm just hopeful that the 12 week scan helps him to relax. It's so odd because he's known for being very positive and upbeat.
I think men do react oddly sometimes even when its a much wanted pregnancy. Glad to hear you've sorted it out now.
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