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WWYD? Wedding 8 days before EDD

(36 Posts)
Bippidee Thu 13-Jun-13 18:56:41

Obviously not my own! It's the wedding of a really good friend and I would love to go but for the tricksy date.

There's no telling how I'll feel by then.

Do I accept and haul my hospital bag etc with me, or do I decline and feel miserable when I don't dramatically give birth early?

rowtunda Fri 14-Jun-13 14:08:02

Go - I'm going to a wedding in France when I'm 36weeks pregnant. DC1 came at 38weeks, so I'm hoping it is going to be ok!! I just know that if I didn't go I'd end up being overdue!

sanityawol Fri 14-Jun-13 14:49:52

rowtunda how are you travelling?

I may have imagined this, but I'm sure I saw a news story a few weeks ago where a ferry company refused to let a heavily pregnant women on her return journey to the UK.

sanityawol Fri 14-Jun-13 14:51:26
FeegleFion Fri 14-Jun-13 15:03:27

I was matron of honour, as well as giving my sister away 3 days before I was to have a CS with DS.

I even had to attend my pre-op on the morning of her wedding grin

Go to the wedding. Have your HB ready (take it with you, if needs be, but I honestly think you'll be OK.

As other posters have pointed out, it's very unlikely your baby will make an appearance and if he/ she does, think of the story you can tell us vipers of their arrival grin

rowtunda Fri 14-Jun-13 15:42:01

Eurostar tickets booked and fully covered with insurance from the post office grin

BraveLilBear Fri 14-Jun-13 16:15:46

Go! Or, at least, accept with a caveat that if you're not right on the day that you'd stay away for fear of diverting attention from beautiful bride.

At my antenatal class this week, they said that 80% of all babies go over their estimated due date, which is why in France, 41 weeks is given as the due date.

Definitely go if you can, would be a fab distraction, good story for DC when they're older and as long as you're prepared and know where local maternity units are (to the venue) all should be fine...

JRmumma Fri 14-Jun-13 16:28:12

If its a good friend then I would hope they understand your situation. Just have a chat and say that you would love to come and plan to accept the invite, but you just want to make sure she is happy with that as you may have to pull out at short notice if you just dont feel up to it, or if baby comes early etc.

If you accept the invite, i think it is important that you still feel able to change your mind closer to the time, when you will have a better idea of how you will feel on the day. The health of you and your baby are much more important than anything else and so if you dont feel like going the day before, then you must feel able to decide not to, without it upsetting you (by knowing you are upsetting your friend).

And definately take all of your hospital kit etc with you just in case!

Ive been invited to a wedding the day before my due date and have had this chat with my friend who understands that I might not be able to go. Ive also decided to just attend the evening part so that she can invite someone else in the daytime in my place, so I dont feel pressure to attend because ive had a dinner place paid for me.

hope that is helpful.

TheCatIsUpTheDuff Fri 14-Jun-13 18:40:49

I've been invited to one 10 days after my due date. I gave our apologies, but the bride, who's been a friend for 20 years, wouldn't accept it! She's got 2 kids herself, and says she'd have been fine after DC2, but not a chance in hell with DC1, so she's totally happy to wait and see if I make it, and if I don't, someone else will happily eat my dinner!

We went to one 2 days before my edd and I wasnt very comfy but I was ok. It had originally been planned for the Saturday night but the bride and groom changed it a few months earlier to the Friday instead.
Lucky for them they did as on saturday night my waters broke all over the kitchen while having dinner with my friends!! That would have been fun at a wedding!!

EverythingInMjiniature Fri 14-Jun-13 18:58:10

I've got someone maybe coming to mine a week before she's due. I just said to see how she feels, and if she's not up to it on the day no worries. I'm sure good friends will understand!

LouiseD29 Sat 15-Jun-13 07:36:06

OP - I'm off to a wedding a week before my due date as well! Friend being very understanding that nature may have other ideas and I could be over wise engaged, but I will pack hospital bag and notes, comfy shoes, check where the nearest labour ward is and hope for the best. Good luck smile

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