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If you are pregnant do you count as a 'mother' as in 'being fussed over for mother's day by dp'....

(38 Posts)
riskit4abiskit Sun 03-Mar-13 20:46:51

... or does it not count until baby is born?

(shamelessly hoping for a bacon buttie in bed)

light-hearted thread

As I am not my DH mother he doesn't spoil me and likewise for Father's Day. My children normally make cards if they remember and my 9yo (only one with pocket money) has asked Dad to take him out to spend it on me. It means a lot to me that he has done this off his own back and will mean more than any gift.

In my opinion our wedding anniversary is when my DH makes a fuss of me and Mother's Day is when we make a fuss of our Mothers.

StuckOnARollercoaster Mon 04-Mar-13 07:02:22

Was out shopping at the weekend. Knowing how rubbish my Dp is at this stuff I made him get his own mum a card. I did say that next year it's up to him to get me one! I don't hold out much hope... But given that he brings me plenty of tea and biscuits in bed and other nice real life stuff I can let it go (assuming I don't turn into a hormonal mess when this baby is born!!!)!

notsoold Mon 04-Mar-13 08:49:05

Oooohhhh yes you do.... And dh only stops buying/ helping/ giving the money to cards once dc have their own money ( pocket or hard earned).

My ds (13yo) is mowing the neighbours garden to earn for my present ( a mug and a card)....
We are giving him money to buy a gift to his nana ( she is his sweetie mummy , as he calls her)

WestieMamma Mon 04-Mar-13 09:05:52

I never get a fuss on any special days be it mother's day, valentine's day, wedding anniversaries, birthdays or whatever sad

This is because my husband firmly believes a wife/girlfriend should be treated like royalty every day. I get bacon butties brought to me every Saturday morning, and Sunday lunch cooked every weekend, and random flowers and chocs and other nice stuff. I'm so lucky. smile

Minty82 Mon 04-Mar-13 09:17:38

I gave birth a week early on Mother's Day last year, and the impressively organised baby managed to get me a card! (via my parents. DH had been a little busy...)

SourSweets Mon 04-Mar-13 10:59:51

Pfft, yes! Growing a baby is hard. My husband's making dinner for his mum, his sister who is also a mum, his niece who is also a mum and me, a mum-to-be. It's the least he can do, ha.

Portofino Mon 04-Mar-13 11:09:55

No. Imho it is the KIDS who should do the spoiling on Mother's Day so you have to wait til they are bigger.

Tabbykat Mon 04-Mar-13 11:15:06

I think you should, but be careful what you wish for....DH bought me a present for mother's day when I was pregnant - a pot of stretchmark cream. Huh!

cyclecamper Mon 04-Mar-13 11:26:05

I'm planning to continue my mother's tradition of not celebrating mother's day, so no.

smile

elliejjtiny Mon 04-Mar-13 11:39:38

I can't remember if my DH did anything on mothers day when I was pregnant with my PFB. I remember getting breakfast in bed the day after the first BFP though. I think mothers day means more when the children are older though. DS1 made me a card and laminated bookmark at school when he was 4 which was more special than a card and chocolates bought by DH when DS1 was younger. We don't do fathers day because DH thinks it's too commercialised so I make a big fuss of him at easter instead.

Nagoo Mon 04-Mar-13 12:04:15

I cleverly squeezed mine out just before mother's day, so I don't know.

I reckon I would cajole DH into getting me a bacon sandwich though, for sure grin

It's much better when they are old enough to make you a present smile

knittingirl Mon 04-Mar-13 12:31:26

Dh said to me yesterday, do you know it'll be your first mother's day next weekend? I'll be 16 weeks smile

It also happens to be his birthday on the same day though, so think he might be wanting to get spoilt!

rrreow Mon 04-Mar-13 13:20:10

Before having a baby with sleepless nights and the romance going out of the relationship (grin) there is NO REASON in my opinion to not get a bacon butty in bed (and it doesn't even have to be mother's day).

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