Before we got pg, we had already decided on two baby names- Daisy and Alvy (we'd been trying for two years so had a while to decide!). By about the 12th week we'd decided against Daisy because it was just too popular and a little later on DP had decided he wasn't keen on Alvy anymore- fair enough!
Since we found out we were having a boy, i've been keen to narrow names down to about 2 or 3 so i know what to call the little thing growing in my tummy. But we now have a problem. DP is completely unwilling to discuss it. I've been trying not to bring it up too much, but it's really beginning to stress me out as DS was 4 weeks early and threatened to come from 32 weeks, so i'm very aware that time is ticking away.
We went through a very thick baby name book the other day and he vetoed almost every one i mentioned for both first and middle names and refused to look through it himself.
He's only been enthusiastic about 3 names, Felix (like the cat food), Hamish (big fan of hamish and andy, but the only nickname for it is 'Ham'- apparently this isn't a problem according to DP) and Ralph (which i initially liked as it was my grandfather's name, unfortunately, for about the past 6 weeks, every time the name Ralph was mentioned DP would do a Ralph Wiggum impression a link if you're not familiar with his work)
I've said all of these names would be lovely middle names and am quite willing to use them, but not as first names.
I have about 12 other names which DP originally said he liked and i was very excited about one in particular which, again, DP didn't shoot down, but after a conversation about the name Felix last night in which i reiterated the fact that it just has too many connotations with cat food for me to like as a first name he turned around and said 'well we're not using your favorite name then'. He also said he'd gone off the rest on the list.
Hmf. Sorry it's turned into a bit of a rant, but i just don't know how to talk to him about it. He doesn't bring it up at all, so when i do talk about it, it just feels like him nagging him. I'm getting very upset (possibly pregnancy hormones!) by the whole thing as he doesn't really seem to care.
Suggestions about what to do?
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So silly, but we're having *huge* baby name issues.
12ylnon · 14/02/2013 10:32
I know a little boy Hamish, he is the sweetest thing. His parents call him, "Mish" as a nickname. I love it.
For what it's worth, I have a Felix who is almost a teenager and he's never been referred to in connection with cat food. The name becomes the person, not the other way around.
It looks like you're going to have to pick out some new names though, I think you both have to like a name. 
Sounds like a mare, but having options for the birth day is a good plan. we're going to do that. 
If you try to push him it sounds like he'll dig his heels in more.
Felxi is gorgeous, was on my list, but we're having a girl. Don't worry baout catfood connotations, people will get to know your boy's personality and associate it with him. we're considering a girls name that has margerine connotations, but it was a name looooong before a food company got hold of it and i'm hoping her personality will shine through.
Hamish can also be 'H' , 'mish' (cute!), Hay among others.
And Ralph is really solid and warm sounding.
Good luck and congrats!
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