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So silly, but we're having *huge* baby name issues.

(8 Posts)
NAR4 Thu 14-Feb-13 14:51:52

Today is my due date and my DH says no to every name I have suggested. He did this with my 3rd DS as well and then suddenly suggested a name when I said I needed to push. I agreed, but would have probably agreed on pretty much anything at that point. I am going to go with the above suggestion of having a few names I like ready to suggest myself, once I am in labour. If he values his safety he will agree to one of them at that point!

Hamish is lovely - I'm in Scotland and have come across quite a few Hamishes.

For what it's worth, my older sister didn't have a name for a month! She was just called 'Baby' and my grandad even has a birthday card sign 'your daughter, and the baby'.

You have a while yet to decide. You don't even have to have made a decision once the baby is born. You can get to know him then decide on a name. Our babies were referred to as Twin1 & Twin2 by the nurses and doctors in the neo natal unit for almost 2 weeks as we couldn't decide!

Sounds like a mare, but having options for the birth day is a good plan. we're going to do that. grin If you try to push him it sounds like he'll dig his heels in more.

Felxi is gorgeous, was on my list, but we're having a girl. Don't worry baout catfood connotations, people will get to know your boy's personality and associate it with him. we're considering a girls name that has margerine connotations, but it was a name looooong before a food company got hold of it and i'm hoping her personality will shine through.

Hamish can also be 'H' , 'mish' (cute!), Hay among others.

And Ralph is really solid and warm sounding.

Good luck and congrats!

Locketjuice Thu 14-Feb-13 11:33:39

I have the same problem :| resorted to asking 'if you had a dog what you call it' he said Rex so that ended that conversation!

Snowflakepie Thu 14-Feb-13 11:19:05

Ok, don't panic. You still have time. You also have pushing rights, frankly. Have three or so names that you really like, and wait. One of them will seem right when DS appears. If there is one you really love keep it quiet for now, then when your lovely baby is given to you say something along the lines of second favourite, middle, no, actually I think he looks like a favourite, middle. Then it might not seem like thats your first choice, perhaps! Any man who picks a fight with a woman who has just had a baby is going to lose, fact. Ralph is lovely and would be a great middle name. I know a little felix and he is lovely too, no one has ever mentioned cat food around him.

These things don't seem real to men in the way they do when you are the one carrying the baby. I always called my bump 'baby', even though we had a name chosen. Try not to worry about it, really it doesn't have to be a big deal unless your baby is nearly 6 weeks old and has no name x

Eskino Thu 14-Feb-13 10:39:23

I know a little boy Hamish, he is the sweetest thing. His parents call him, "Mish" as a nickname. I love it.

For what it's worth, I have a Felix who is almost a teenager and he's never been referred to in connection with cat food. The name becomes the person, not the other way around.

It looks like you're going to have to pick out some new names though, I think you both have to like a name. sad

12ylnon Thu 14-Feb-13 10:32:23

Before we got pg, we had already decided on two baby names- Daisy and Alvy (we'd been trying for two years so had a while to decide!). By about the 12th week we'd decided against Daisy because it was just too popular and a little later on DP had decided he wasn't keen on Alvy anymore- fair enough!

Since we found out we were having a boy, i've been keen to narrow names down to about 2 or 3 so i know what to call the little thing growing in my tummy. But we now have a problem. DP is completely unwilling to discuss it. I've been trying not to bring it up too much, but it's really beginning to stress me out as DS was 4 weeks early and threatened to come from 32 weeks, so i'm very aware that time is ticking away.

We went through a very thick baby name book the other day and he vetoed almost every one i mentioned for both first and middle names and refused to look through it himself.

He's only been enthusiastic about 3 names, Felix (like the cat food), Hamish (big fan of hamish and andy, but the only nickname for it is 'Ham'- apparently this isn't a problem according to DP) and Ralph (which i initially liked as it was my grandfather's name, unfortunately, for about the past 6 weeks, every time the name Ralph was mentioned DP would do a Ralph Wiggum impression www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DoJNMuhHEA a link if you're not familiar with his work)
I've said all of these names would be lovely middle names and am quite willing to use them, but not as first names.

I have about 12 other names which DP originally said he liked and i was very excited about one in particular which, again, DP didn't shoot down, but after a conversation about the name Felix last night in which i reiterated the fact that it just has too many connotations with cat food for me to like as a first name he turned around and said 'well we're not using your favorite name then'. He also said he'd gone off the rest on the list.

Hmf. Sorry it's turned into a bit of a rant, but i just don't know how to talk to him about it. He doesn't bring it up at all, so when i do talk about it, it just feels like him nagging him. I'm getting very upset (possibly pregnancy hormones!) by the whole thing as he doesn't really seem to care.

Suggestions about what to do?

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