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Second time new mums?

(34 Posts)
CruCru Sat 02-Feb-13 16:54:18

Hi all

I have just found out that I'm pregnant again (due October). I have a 17 mo DS.

Any other second time Mums around?

Love

Cru

CitizenOscar Sat 02-Feb-13 22:23:51

Yes, due July, 19m DS.

Congratulations!

Looking forward to it but also worried about what it'll be like...

When we found out, DH said he felt like we were "cheating on" DS by thinking about loving another child!

How are you feeling about it?

Solero Sat 02-Feb-13 22:24:39

Yup i am 14 weeks with #2 due 4th aug, DD has just turned 2 smile

Hope you are well

Sol

atrcts Sat 02-Feb-13 22:36:23

Yes - am preggers with number 2 wink
Really goog through different phases, first of all shock and fear of how I will be able to cope with 2, followed by researching management options and now really looking forwards to it! Am 18 weeks today so due 6 July gringrin

twoboyslater Sat 02-Feb-13 22:39:33

Me too! smile
22 weeks with ds2, ds1 will be 19months next week grin

CitizenOscar Sat 02-Feb-13 22:40:09

Atrcts - nearly due date buddies then - I'm due 10 July smile

Chocolateporridge Sat 02-Feb-13 22:46:17

Me too, I'm 7 weeks with number 2, due Sep 23rd and have a dd who is 2 and 4 mo. It still doesn't feel real yet but when I do think about it, it feels exciting, even though before I conceived I was worried that I wouldn't have enough love to go around. Weirdly I feel like I love dd more since I found out, I think its because I'm mentally going over what happened first time round and it reminds me how special she is smile

twinklesparkles Sat 02-Feb-13 22:48:10

I'm 30 weeks pregnant with a little girl

I have a ds who's 5 smile

Congrats!

CruCru Sat 02-Feb-13 23:14:31

It feels a bit strange. It'll be weird to have someone else join our family. Also DS likes to run around the kitchen and throw toys - that will be hard work when the next one arrives. I'll have a 2 yr 1 month gap.

CruCru Sat 02-Feb-13 23:15:08

Congratulations to you all.

DoodleAlley Sun 03-Feb-13 00:03:30

30 weeks pg with little girl.

DS who is 4.5.

chroniclackofimagination Sun 03-Feb-13 01:04:51

I have a 2 year old and a 10 week old. Didn't see how I could love anyone as much as DS1 but DS2 arrived and I fell just as ridiculously in love with him. It's amazing watching them together.

cakesonatrain Sun 03-Feb-13 14:45:36

DS is 18mo, DD due 5th of March!
Have been feeling guilty the whole time about DS having to share mummy and daddy - he won't be the centre of attention any more, but I guess that's probably a good thing smile
It will be hard work, but we reckon we will be stopping at 2, so all that small frustrated person stuff should be over sooner rather than later!

FredKiller Sun 03-Feb-13 19:11:47

Oh I'm glad it's not just me. Got my BFP in weds. I really wanted another but now I'm struggling with my feelings a bit. DS is 19mo, still bfs loads and we co-sleep. Everything is going to have to change now and I feel weepy when I should be excited sad.

CitizenOscar Mon 04-Feb-13 21:47:38

Oh FredKiller. Try not to worry too much. There's ages til the new baby arrives & your DS will have changed loads by then. You'll have lots of time to make gentle changes to your routine (if you want to) in preparation for the new arrival.

I feel a bit sad for DS that he'll have to share the limelight with our new DC and a new cousin (due same time as SIL) when he's been the only child & grandchild but I'm trying to talk to him about it loads & hope he'll be excited.

tuckingfits Mon 04-Feb-13 21:52:04

I've got a son just turned two & got a positive test on his second birthday last week. Also due October,come & join the antenatal club thread,if you're that way inclined!

I feel a bit like I'm being disloyal to DS but I know in the long run having a sibling will be good for him. Have no effing idea how I'm going to manage with two! However it is really exciting!

yummymumtobe Mon 04-Feb-13 22:37:30

Hi, I have a 19mo and another due at the end of August - I posted before when I found out I was pg as I was really upset. Still pretty shocked about it all to be honest as feels like with 1 you have a child in your family but with 2 you just become 'mum' and the kids have taken over. So pleased this guilt towards first child seems a common thing. Thought maybe I was a bit warped!

Jojobump1986 Tue 05-Feb-13 01:44:57

I'm expecting DS2 in early more likely to be mid June when DS1 will be 19.5 months! Should be an interesting challenge having them so close together, especially if #2 is like #1. He's so independent that he just happily wanders off without a second glance & would willingly go with anyone who called him! It's a bit scary but thankfully he does seem to be getting a bit cuddlier now so that makes up for my abandonment issues when he doesn't pay any attention to me when we're out! wink

emblosion Tue 05-Feb-13 10:48:46

Me! DC2 due on 3 July. My son is 7 months old so there'll be about 13 months between them <faints> shock

newbielisa Tue 05-Feb-13 11:18:06

I have DD1 and had DD2 13 weeks ago. I spent my whole pregnancy stressing about DD1 who had been the centre of our universe and how we were probably about to wreck her life.

I was due for a c section and I also stressed about DD1 visit to the hospital. I knew the "don't hold baby as older sibling arrives" and the have a present from baby to big sister but she also added. A HV suggested it was Daddy brought DD1 in and daddy took her home so that she's not "leaving the new family behind."

I'm here to tell you it has all been fine, it would be easier if I had an extra arm admittedly. You really do have enough love to go around and your DC1 copes brilliantly. In truth they ignore the baby a lot, which is preferable to swinging them round like a doll of course.

I love my 2 girls so much, just this morning DD1 said I want to hold her and we did a tame version of row your boat. DD2 is a real smiler and some days when she looks at her big sister her face almost cracks in two.

by the way the gap is 2 yrs 4 months.

Sorry this is so long but I just hope I have helped just a wee bit, don't be like me and waste your pregnancy with needless worry.

BelleEtLaBaby Tue 05-Feb-13 12:05:21

Marking my spot. 10wks with DC2, DS is 22mo.

Am very ill again with HG this time around, so I have the added guilt of mummy can't get off the sofa to deal with too! I do have little niggles about how DS will respond. We've told him already, that there is a baby in my tummy, and he kisses the baby (of his own accord! Too cute!). He will also suggest names if asked. We sort of wanted him to have lots of time with the idea. My best mate did this with her dd's and it worked really well. DS says 'my baby' which makes me feel happy and less guilty.

Although we did have a funny conversation when he was asking did his daddy have a baby in his tummy? Did nanna? Did gram gram? Etc. Now he says 'baby in the tummy. Only mummy." In a very matter of fact way.

And there was an interesting moment after an episode of Peppa in which mummy rabbit has the babies and he kept patting my tummy and saying 'baby rabbits' with a huge grin on his face! I think he was almost disappointed smile

When/how will/have you tell your existing Dc's?

xlatia Tue 05-Feb-13 12:25:58

marking my spot as well. just got home from the 20 week scan, DS1 (15 months now) will have a little brother in june! now off to work.

congrats all around! smile

RachaelH1983 Tue 05-Feb-13 12:51:47

I am 26 wks booked in for c-section 8th May. I have a 7 year old dd. I am scared seems like a life time ago that I had to change nappies + do night feeds. I'm very excited for my dd she will be an amazing big sister to her little brother. Congratulations to u all

Ra88 Tue 05-Feb-13 13:51:21

Yes me too ! Found out today !

Due October 12th
I have a 3.9yr dd

smile

atrcts Tue 05-Feb-13 15:51:41

Just out of interest, is everyone planning to change DC 1's room/bed BEFORE giving birth, or wait til 5/6 months post partum (or whatever time you move them out of your room) when the baby will need its own room?

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