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Posting in wrong forums. Am i being insensitive?

(63 Posts)
NoVictim1 Fri 25-Jan-13 23:54:49

Im pregnant and I come in here to share stories with other pregnant women. However, i find alot of the posts are about miscarriages or babies dying. There are correct areas such as the miscarriage forum where i expect you would get the best support.
I have found it hard coming in here without the fear of god being put into me and making me more paranoid than I need to be.
Im very sorry for anyone who has lost a baby. I myself have lost two so i know how it feels. I just wish people would put things in the appropriate place

Sorry if i have offended anyone but im sure im not alone.

SnowLiviaMumsnet (MNHQ) Sun 27-Jan-13 13:09:03

Hello everyone
Thanks for all the viewpoints here.
We are more than happy to move any thread when an OP requests it - and have done this in the past.
We would remind you all though that if there's one thing we could all do with, no matter what stage of motherhood we're at, it's some moral support.
Thanks
MNHQ

SleepyDeer Sun 27-Jan-13 15:08:52

I've lost 3 pregnancies in 2012 a little boy at 23 weeks and 2 at 7 weeks. I posted on the pregnancy forum about my losses and new pregnancies, due to the miscarriage forum being quiet (not many woman on them). Like others have said you don't have to read then, it was a bit insensitive.

People come on these for support, and this defiantly isn't supportive towards those who have lost/ or have the fear of loosing a baby.

WeeS Sun 27-Jan-13 16:16:09

I find it peculiar that you would have posted such a thread when you have experience of mc yourself. Everyone deals with loss in their own different ways, but surely you could have predicted everyones reation to your insensitivity? I really hope you have not posted this to provoke things.

I agree with Moominsarescary that this thread ought to be deleted.

ghislaine Sun 27-Jan-13 17:16:30

MNHQ:

I think if you start moving pregnancy loss threads out of pregnancy due to the kind of objections of the OP, then that is a really bad call and callous disregard for all the reasons given as to why those sorts of threads should stay where the grieving mother chooses to put them.

OliviaMumsnet (MNHQ) Sun 27-Jan-13 18:22:49

ghislaine

MNHQ:

I think if you start moving pregnancy loss threads out of pregnancy due to the kind of objections of the OP, then that is a really bad call and callous disregard for all the reasons given as to why those sorts of threads should stay where the grieving mother chooses to put them.

Hi there
Sorry, wasn't clear.

SnowLiviaMumsnet

We are more than happy to move any thread when an OP requests it - and have done this in the past.

We meant the OP of the thread in question not this particular thread

E.g. if an OP starts a thread in pregnancy and then sadly goes on to have a miscarriage and wants to talk about that and would prefer that it was in another topic we would be happy to move it if it were requested by the OP herself.

It's one thing to move a silly thread about e.g. the goings on in Emmerdale out of AIBU into Telly addicts but we certainly don't move threads to and from bereavement/miscarriage or any of those topics without the express wishes of the OP.

Hope this clears things up
Peace and love
MNHQ

TinkyPeet Sun 27-Jan-13 21:59:15

I agree I think this thread should be deleted now, it's pointless and could really upset or anger someone that would be looking here for support

MissRaindrop Sun 27-Jan-13 22:33:57

Totally appalled at this post. Ok so I came on here for help & support as I didn't know what was happening over the past two weeks with a mc & I have to say you guys helped me through the worst time of my life. Now I know I am not welcome to voice concern I won't be back. I am sorry if losing my first baby offended anyone. Speechless.

RubyrooUK Sun 27-Jan-13 22:54:42

MissRaindrop - it was one poster who asked a very insensitive AIBU. The rest of the thread shows that people don't feel the same way.

Don't feel bad - there are lots of us here and on the pregnancy threads who have through similar things and are available for support anytime. Hoping you have some happier times soon.

goodbyekitty123 Mon 28-Jan-13 09:06:12

MNHQ- I emailed you however I don't think you received it. I think this thread should be removed as I don't think there is any more to be said on it. It just seems to be causing a lot of upset and could end up putting people off coming to this site. I just don't think it's the best example of what mumsnet can offer and doesn't reflect it in a particularly good light if left on here.

goodbyekitty123 Mon 28-Jan-13 09:08:35

I meant I emailed mumsnet not you in particular OliviaMumsnet SnowLiviaMumsnet

TheAccidentalExhibitionist Mon 28-Jan-13 15:24:51

Good idea goodbyekitty123 I agree, this thread is not going to help anyone sad

RubyrooUK Mon 28-Jan-13 16:50:52

I agree now too Kitty. I thought last time you suggested deleting the thread that the thread might show people that actually the vast majority of people are extremely supportive of those suffering losses on the pregnancy boards. (I myself have posted about losing my pregnancies, probably all over different parts of Mumsnet and found amazing support.)

Also I thought that maybe the OP would have something more to add that might explain her views, which so many people did find insensitive.

But since the OP posted this several days ago and has not been back, I think you're right. It's just hurtful for people who find it accidentally in pregnancy and think this is representative of Mumsnet's views.

SunshineOutdoors Mon 28-Jan-13 19:15:39

I agree it should be deleted, particularly after seeing MissRainbow's post.

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