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Pregant after 6 years of trying

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adsthebads · 25/01/2013 15:01

Today i finally had the bfp i have been waiting so long for me and dh are over the moon.But i am sitting her stressing about the massive age gap between my ds and this new baby. Ds is 8 so ladies pls tell me your stories about big age gaps between your dc.

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Dolallytats · 25/01/2013 15:07

We finally got our BFP for No2 15 years after No1. They are just like any other brother and sister and wind each other up, buut also get on like a house on fire!! I don't really think that the age gaps matter as you deal with whatever comes along.

We are now expecting DC No3, 4.5 years after having No2 and I have no idea what it will be like with such a small age gap!!!

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Globular · 25/01/2013 15:08

I have no idea about the age gap but just wanted to say congratulations! helpful as always Grin

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curiousgeorgie · 25/01/2013 15:12

I don't have children with a massive age gap myself, but one of my brothers is 7 years younger than me and the other 13 years... And it was great! All my friends wanted to play with them and now they're teenagers at home (well, one of them!) and I've moved out and got my own family they love coming over.

Plus my mum was always able to afford more as we were so spread out.

Congratulations!!!

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BrendaB85 · 25/01/2013 16:56

What a lovely post! CONGRATULATIONS! [GRIN]

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ShephardsDelight · 25/01/2013 16:59

Woah! Congratualtions!!!

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lolalotta · 25/01/2013 17:07

Congratulations! I am close and have always been close to my sisters who are 8 and 10 years older!!! Grin

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50shadesofmeh · 25/01/2013 17:22

There is over 6 years between my 2 kids My son is 8 and my daughter is 2 , it was fantastic like being a first time mum with loads of time but with a lot more confidence. My eldest was a great help when his sister was small and they get on great, no jealousy either.

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adsthebads · 25/01/2013 17:26

Thanks ladies I feel so much better now Grin

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CrackedNipplesSuchFun · 25/01/2013 17:32

I have no idea as I have only one child but just wanted to say a massive congratulations!

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shelly81 · 25/01/2013 17:48

My boy will be 13 & 11 when there baby sister is born in a few mnths there over the moon & cant wait xxx

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stowsettler · 25/01/2013 20:33

Congratulations! My DP's son is 15, his half-sister is due in 3 weeks. He's really excited about it!

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Emus · 27/01/2013 08:58

The age gap between myself and my youngest brother is 15 years but we are incredibly close (more so in some respects than my other brothers who I'm similar in age too!).

I think its great that your DS has another brother or sister coming along - he'll be able to help you out and get more involved and will probably be quite protective towards his new brother or sister!

Huge congratulations :-)

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ohmygoshtake2yay · 27/01/2013 10:02

i cant say anything about age gap as mine are 16 months apart. but just want to say a HUGE Congratulations and i hope you have a nice easy pregnancy!!

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PandaOnAPushBike · 27/01/2013 11:20

Worried about an 8 year age gap? Shock

My daughter will turn 20 a few weeks after this little one is born :o

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Mayanbob · 27/01/2013 11:22

Congratulations!!!

I don't have children, but my closest brother is 13 years older than me. My Sister is 25 years older than me an had already left home before I was born.

Very close to my brother, and now i'm older, my sister too (she was a bit like a 'friend's mum' growing up, mainly because neice is only 8 months younger than me.

Wishing you the absolute very best for the next 9 months

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lucybrad · 27/01/2013 19:19

mine had a seven year gap - it took me that long to pluck up the corouge again after twins the first time round. Its been a doddle. I never had the chance of looking after one baby, so while the boys are at school its like being a first time mum again with ore experience. I cant reccommend it enough. The older ones help out too!

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Shellywelly1973 · 27/01/2013 19:34

My dc are spread over 24 yrs...biggest gap is 10 yrs between dc2& dc3. My oldest dc will be 24 when the newest family member arrives!

I've already done teenagers &toddlers...will again,i must be mad!

Personally i think if siblings are going to get on, its more to do with the individual child's personality rather then the age gap.

Very best of luck&congratulations!!

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Rowan1204 · 27/01/2013 21:10

My sister's two are 3.5 and 15! She loves it now that her teenager can baby sit from time to time! And he is like a mother hen its so lovely.
Also a friend has and 8 yr old and a 2 yr old. She finds it great too as her older dc helps out loads with the little one.
There are definitely great pro's to having them a bit wider apart!
Congratulations :)

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LuckyOwl28 · 27/01/2013 21:24

From another angle; My Mum had my (half) brother with another partner when I was 10 and it was the best thing that ever happened to me!

Think I'd always accepted the fact I'd be an only child so was so excited when I heard the news.

Having the big age gap there meant that we weren't bickering over things and I loved helping out. I think this is what inspired me to work with children as I got in so much experience when I was younger.

I'm now 26 expecting my first and he's 16 about to be a very proud Uncle!

I know I'm just one example and every child will be different but sure you will find the same. You could say its easier to explain the situation to an 8 year old, whereas it may be harder for a toddler to understand everything.

CONGRATULATIONS by the way, amazing news! Grin

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