Partner's brother is getting married in NZ next year. I will be 32 weeks.
Partner now decided he is almost certainly going. For 2 weeks. I cannot believe he is even considering it. I am anti this as:
- anything could happen ie baby arrive (unlikely, but why risk it?!)
- I could have complications, eg admitted to hospital, bed rest etc, and have 6 yo at home to think of, with no family nearby.
- generally I need his support and assistance.
Separately, we cannot afford this. We have made a concerted effort to become debt free (almost there!) and this will plunge us backwards. He said separately that he is worried about our finances when I am on maternity leave- being £3k less well off/in debt will not help at all.
We plan to get married late next year- if he goes, we definitely won't have the money. So him going to this wedding will delay ours by at least a year. Also I very much doubt his brother will come to ours....
Going myself is not an option- I have a child in school (it will be term time) and also I don't want to travel 30 hours when so big! That's before considering money side.
I can see this becoming a massive issue. Please tell me if I am being unreasonable. If he is being unreasonable, please help me show him this (he very much doesn't like being told what to do, so he needs to figure out for himself. Me saying I need him doesn't sink in)